The Lord God has given me the tongue of the learned, that I should know how to speak a word in season to him that is weary.
I started a Bible study titled Grace For Every Trial by Betty Henderson a few years ago. I notice that I haven’t finished it!
She shared some good thoughts that I want to share with you. As someone who endured a long term trial, I read many of these and said, “YES!”
1. Don’t be a sermonizer. When grief is freshest, words should be fewest. Share words from Scripture no your own thoughts or words.
2. A sacrifice of time and tears may be involved. Many trials may require comforters for many months. Your presence and assurance of prayers and encouraging words is needed.
3. Don’t quote Romans 8:28 to a hurting person. It’s not that it’s not a wonderful verse. It’s just that they’ve already thought of it. It’s not an aspirin that instantly heals everything.
4. To comfort another with God’s word, you have to know where to find the comfort. Know your Bible. Keep a list of verses that comfort you.
5. Little acts of kindness make a huge difference in the life of a hurting person.
6. Offer to take meals.
7. Offer to help with childcare.
8. Comfort the family members of the suffering person because they are hurting too. Does anyone wonder if Job’s wife could have had a different attitude if someone had encouraged her?
9. After the illness, death, crisis is past continue to let them know you’re praying for them and you’re there if they need you.
10. Remember the family during holidays.
11. Don’t stop praying for them.
One of the strangest things for me to learn to deal with was to see people just go about their lives as if nothing happened. I know people have to continue to live and I’m sure that I’ve appeared to do that to others around me who may be hurting so I do get it. But, I was stunned to look at the pieces around me and feel the pain deeply in my soul and wondered how people could just go on living as if nothing had happened.
Letting someone know you’re praying for them and that you remember that their life is in pieces goes a long way toward helping them hang on for a little bit longer.
A word spoken in due season, how good is it! Proverbs 15:23