Oh Yeah There Was This

by adustyframe ~ August 17th, 2014

This post….check it out….look at the date.

I decided to forgo a big bash this year….but wow…it’s been a long time.

What a blessing each one of you has been to me through the years. I don’t even know if you can understand how very much you mean to me.


Thank you :)

To help me celebrate, want to leave a comment or two on an old post you may have not read before? Check out my “favorite posts” link at the top.



Why Prison Isn’t Restful

by adustyframe ~ August 13th, 2014

I was reading blogs in my feed the other day and stopped cold when the 1st words on one were,

“Prison,” she said after sharing with me how desperately tired she was, “is starting to sound really good.”

I have no clue how I found this blog or why I decided to follow it and I can’t remember leaving comments there before but I know I’ve followed it for quite awhile.

The post was about how desperately we need to rest and what real rest is, etc. It was a good post except for the prison comments. There was a little more about how if prison means you can lay on a bed and read a book alone it didn’t seem bad.

And then a “We laughed”……

I felt sick. Literally sick.

I know people say thoughtless comments and I’m sure I’ve been guilty of that once in awhile. But laughing about the misery of others and thinking it means you’d get a rest is so so so far from reality that I felt I had to say something.

I left a comment~

“I know this is a thing people say and I get your point about needing rest.  But please people “I wish I could go to prison” is a horrible thing to say.  It’s not restful in the least and it’s a horrible heartbreak for the family.

I opened my feed to catch up on blogs this a.m. and your 1st sentence has left me feeling shaky and sad. That’s not your fault it’s because of our history but still. It’s a glib statement that no one with a bit of  compassion should ever use.”

I left links to my prison category to help anyone realize why wishing for prison isn’t a good idea and I left a link to my “What Not To Say” post.

My comment is still in moderation even though other comments were published after that one.  I asked why and said I apologized if it was a glitch that left my comment in limbo and there has been no moderation or reply or even an email. Maybe just maybe the blogger is perusing my prison posts to try to understand and isn’t sure what to say….that would be a great scenario right?

This blogger contributes to a group blog where the article was also shared and I considered leaving a comment there but decided I didn’t want to be some weird internet stalker. I also felt sad reading all the comment that said things along the lines of “Oh yeah I wish I could go there for awhile. I need a break.” Or “I hope it’s like Martha Stewart prison.” etc.

I just couldn’t read anymore and I began to think that people who say those things and joke like that wouldn’t care that I think it’s hurtful to say that.

The blogger not moderating my comment or replying did bother me. I’ve been trying to decide why it bothers me. There have been 2 comments here that I didn’t publish. One said, “please don’t publish this I want to tell you something….” and the other was in response to a discussion in the comments that I just didn’t want to continue discussing.

I thought about reasons a blogger may not publish a comment (and I do get it’s her blog she can do what she wants…) foul language, name calling, insulting…..

I think it bothers me because I know what I’m talking about and I didn’t leave the comment to be unkind but to share a viewpoint from someone who’s been there.

If I were to joke on my blog about a disability or life circumstance that hurt someone or made someone think, “Wow she needs to get a clue” I truly hope that I would care. I hope that I would at the very least privately email the person and say something like, “I didn’t think about what I was saying and thank you for pointing out to me why what I said is hurtful.” Even if I didn’t mean to be insensitive and even if the rest of my post had wonderful points. I hope I would think about why my words were hurtful (or wrong, or just plain uninformed).

There were a total of 6 comments on her post too so it’s not really like she was just overwhelmed with comments.

I’m not going to link to it and I’m considering not following it anymore (big deal right?! ;) ) only because I want to get advice, teaching, etc from people with compassionate teachable hearts.

So without further ado, here are a few reasons why prison isn’t restful.

1. It’s loud. Slamming doors, inmates calling to each other in other cells, banging on walls, TV’s, intercoms, guards giving orders.

Ok seriously have you ever heard a prison door slam? Not on TV but in real life? It’s the most awful sound and it’s LOUD.

2. The mattresses are worse than camp mattresses. And you’re sleeping on them way longer than you’d sleep on camp mattresses. And I’m so 100% sure they were disinfected between inmates (right?!)

3. Your schedule is not your own You work when they tell you. You eat when they tell you. You stand for count when they tell you. You be quiet when they tell you. You shower when they tell you. You get fresh air when they tell you. You go to class when they tell you. You go to see people they tell you to go see when they tell you to go see them. You see your loved ones when they tell you you can see them.

4. Your books have to be sent in from a retail establishment so you’re probably going to have to wait a long time between books. Or you can go the library cart and see what’s there.

5. You have very few choices. If you’re hungry while you’re reading, you only have food if you thought ahead to buy junk food from canteen……and if someone though ahead to put money in your account before the cut off for ordering from canteen passed. If that didn’t all come together right, don’t worry. You can get some overpriced junk food in 2 weeks!!

6. Your cellmate may or may not contribute to the ambiance….you probably won’t be on the lovely mattress reading books all alone. You knew that right? Your cellmate may be lovely or they may not. They may make comments about your reading material. They may try to pick a fight with you about what you’re reading. They may not….who knows.

7. Don’t even go to the “I’d be alone if I were in solitary” comment….solitary confinement is very very very difficult. VERY. Sometimes you may not even get bed linens…that includes a blanket. It’s never quiet in solitary. You may not get reading material in solitary…a Bible if you fight for your right to have it….MAYBE.

8. You have no idea how your family is doing. You can find out in 15 minute increments a couple times a week….that is if paying $7 or more per phone call is in the budget of your non-incarcerated loved ones.

9. If you’re sick you may have more time to read and “rest” You’ll probably not feel like reading much though. If you have the flu they MAY give you Tylenol but you won’t have anything that you may have at home to help you at least try to tolerate the healing process. You’ll be on that lovely mattress with all the sounds and cellmates around you.

10.You  don’t get to choose how long you get to “rest”. But the good news is that when you’re done with your “prison rest” if you do anything they don’t like you may get another rest for awhile!

I could go on but I don’t know….I think you get the point. The thing is I know I’m singing to the choir here. You all have been along with me for a long time. You’ve been here while I learned some of these things along with you.

Too bad the blogger appears to be uninterested in thinking about prison’s lack of rest or that saying things like that is really clueless.  I can’t fix that I guess and if she doesn’t care then there’s not much I can do.



My Garden Is A Pinterest Fail

by adustyframe ~ August 10th, 2014

We’ve had a garden most of the years we’ve been married. Sometimes it was a small flower bed size garden and a few years, I had 3 small flower bed size beds…..in the front yard!

The back yard was too shady so the only spot we had was the front yard.

A couple years ago, we removed trees (rotting) and Lee put in new grass. I could finally have a big garden!

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Then I found out that I was having a baby in the middle of the summer and I was not interested in having produce needing to be preserved when I had a brand new baby. We planted a couple things but it didn’t work great and that was that.

So this year was the year! I was so excited. I made a list and went to our favorite garden nursery and bought everything.

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James helped me plant and lay things out just right.

Then it rained…..and rained…..and rained…..

The entire garden was swamped. The entire garden got swamped more than once in June. I was so upset!

I just decided whatever happens would happen. It’s the 1st year so I knew there would be more weeds and stuff to figure out but I wasn’t counting on the swamping.

Everything shifted and some things never recovered…..and the WEEDS. OH MY THE WEEDS!

I just gave up on the weeds–seriously I did. I go out and pick the tallest ones and clear a bit around some of the plants. Lee took the weed whacker into parts that had stuff that either shifted or died….he took out my dill too!


I take the baby out and put him on a little car he has  or in his stroller but it’s not too long before he needs something so I just work in short bursts. This is why I just totally gave up on making it look decent or caring that I don’t get it all weeded.

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I read something by Ann Voskamp recently about not judging and something about not having a perfectly weeded garden. HA! I don’t think she meant my poor garden. I’m afraid I judge myself about it!

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I’m kind of embarrassed about it. But I can’t change it now! I have been getting zucchini , hands full of beans (which I just steam and give to the baby), a tomato here and there and cucumbers. I have an egg plant forming and more tomatoes. Hopefully, I’ll have potatoes–they are the worst looking part of the garden. My lettuce and kale is just completely surrounded by some sort of grass and I gave up on that.

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James and I planted 2 long rows of potatoes. Lee hauled seed potatoes for a company and they gave him 2 bags of potatoes and we decided to put them in the garden. Believe it or not they shifted in the swamping. I didn’t think they would because they are quite a bit deeper than seeds…..

My 2 long rows of potatoes came up 2 plants at one end and a huge mess of plants in a big pile at the other end of the garden. I didn’t even hill them up because it’s so full of weeds….we’ll see what happens.

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(sigh….yes these are my potato plants hiding in those weeds)

Early this spring, I told Lee, “I want a cute garden just so you know. I’ll be working on it over the next years to add pretty things.” He thought that was a waste of time but I told him it was important to me.

I tried….I put out this old bench and stacked pots and filled one with flags.

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Check out my garden board on Pinterest so you can see what a great big old fat Pinterest fail my garden is. All these cute ideas and things I wanted to incorporate in my garden.

My intention for the stump was to put a big pot of flowers on it, or a bird bath or something. The silly thing keeps trying to grow and green shoots keep popping up. I gave up on that for right now.



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We tried corn for the first time. It at least looks like it wants to do something.

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We tried watermelon but something keeps eating the blooms so I haven’t even seen a baby watermelon trying to grow. It’s too late now but I think it would be fun if we could at least get a tiny one to grow. Something is eating my purple beans too. Usually, they grow up the things I place around them but this year they are short and I just get a few now and then. The other day, I went out and a section of them had been nibbled down to the stems.
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The sunflowers are starting to hide the compost bin. That’s why I planted them there so that’s good. This photo shows that my garden is a Pinterest fail to the max!

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At least I have this little cutie out there to help me. He adds class to the joint! ;)


Baby Sign Language

by adustyframe ~ August 8th, 2014

I mentioned in Nathan’s 1st birthday post that we do baby signing with him. I did it a little bit with James but didn’t really have the resources I’ve found to use with this guy.


Right now he can sign these signs~ eat, milk, dog, kitty, more, please, thank you, all done.

Thank you is his new word so we’re still working on that one.

I found this great website online. If I want to know how to say something, I check out the video for that word.

I found these two board books that are helpful too.

I’m not trying to teach him to be fluent in sign language by the way. I mostly want to help him be able to communicate some every day words.

I have to admit that it’s really cute to see him signing “milk” as he scoots across the house to find me so he can nurse.

The other cute one he does is dog. The neighbors have a dog and he says “woo woo” but he makes  a little “woof” noise. I showed him the dog sign once or twice and one day while I was changing his diaper, I asked him “What does a dog say?” He made his little noise AND did the dog sign. Of course that made me pretty excited!

Another instance where he uses it is when he’s eating. When he’s full, he often does the “all done” sign before he says anything. He kind of says, “aww duh”  :) but when he signs that I know he’s full even if he doesn’t say anything.

I didn’t teach him mom or dad because he’s said those words for quite awhile and knows how to get across which parent he’s looking for!

I borrowed a DVD from this series from a friend. It’s cute but I don’t really want to buy them. I need to check if the library has them.

Have fun helping your baby (or kiddos you watch or are around) learn to sign.



Woman Of Courage~Wanda Brunstetter~Book Review

by adustyframe ~ August 6th, 2014


About the book:

Amanda Pearson, a Quaker woman suffering from a broken engagement, leaves her home in New York and travels West to minister to the Nez Perce Indians.

Along the way, she encounters many problems, yet she never gives up. Like a true woman of courage, Amanda trusts God to see her through, even when she fights illness, abandonment, misunderstandings, and an unexpected event.

Set in 1837, this historical novel has many twists and turns that will take readers from the rugged Rocky Mountains to Oregon Territory and the home of the Spalding Mission, where the Nez Perce Indians were first introduced to Christianity.

My thoughts :

Well, I really hate that this is another review of this type but here goes.

I’ve read several of Wanda Brunstetter’s books and greatly enjoyed them so I was looking forward to this one.

The “thee” and “thou” are really distracting… I GET it that she’s a Quaker however, this book really didn’t teach anything about being a Quaker other than the “thee” and “thou” so the character being a Quaker didn’t really add anything to the book.

The journey was full of hardship and I know in real life it was as well BUT seriously? Everything that happened was just way too fantastic to be believable. It was almost enough to make me laugh when I read about ANOTHER thing that went wrong.

I distinctly felt that perhaps the author should stick with her expertise. I’ve loved every one of her novels set in an Amish setting. This one not so much.

When Amanda got to the cabin, the story got more interesting and was ok. At the end though everything and I mean EVERYTHING wrapped up completely perfect and once again it was just too much. Some of it wasn’t necessary to the story it just felt like “oh make this perfect too”.

I feel a little ugly writing this because like I said I have liked all the other books I’ve read by her and I rarely write “stinker” reviews but this one was just too much. Obviously I haven’t sold 7 million books but I read good books all the time so the above is my honest opinion.

About the author:
Wanda Brunstetter has written more than 60 books with more than 7 million copies sold. You can learn more about Wanda at her website.


Disclosure: I received a free copy of this book in order to provide a review. I was under no obligation to provide a positive review. All opinions are my own.


When I Fall In Love~Susan May Warren~Book Review

by adustyframe ~ August 4th, 2014


I’ve enjoyed Susan’s books since the first one I reviewed several years ago. Her stories are funny, interesting, engaging, and thought provoking. She shares Scripture and Biblical thoughts in a seamless way.

This book is a continuation of the Christiansen family series. I have to admit when I first saw it up for review, I thought, “hmmmm how many more of these books can she really write about this family and keep it interesting?” But I was wrong…..this is another great installment in the series.

About the book: 

Hawaii was the last place Grace Christiansen ever imagined she’d vacation, much less fall in love. But when her family surprises her with a cooking retreat in paradise, she is pulled-or maybe yanked-away from her predictable, safe life and thrown headfirst into the adventure of a lifetime.
Max Sharpe may make his living on the ice as a pro hockey player, but he feels most at home in the kitchen. Which is why he lives for the three-week culinary vacation he takes each year in Hawaii. Upon being paired with Grace for a cooking competition, Max finds himself drawn to her passion, confidence, and perseverance. But just when Grace dares to dream of a future beyond her hometown, Max pulls away.
Wrestling with personal demons, Max fights against opening his heart to a love he knows he should never hope for. And as his secrets unfold, Grace is torn between the safe path in front of her and what her heart truly desires. If love means sacrificing her ideal happily ever after, Grace’s faith will face its toughest test yet.
My thoughts :
Susan’s characters are very real. I feel like I know the entire family! I like that she allows them to have struggles and weaknesses that they work through during the story. They are very believable.
This story was interesting and I found myself reading a little extra to see what was going to happen. I also like that there was a parallel story happening with another character from the town while Grace’s story was unfolding. It kept things interesting.
Another fun element in this story was the cooking school and challenge. I personally eat very little seafood, but the recipes still sounded yummy! She should have included a few in the back of the book!
This story was mostly set in Hawaii and then Minneapolis but it’s part of the Deep Haven series…..and oh how I wish I could live in Deep Haven!



About the author: 

Susan May Warren is the bestselling, RITA Award-winning author of more than forty novels whose compelling plots and unforgettable characters have won acclaim with readers and reviewers alike. She served with her husband and four children as a missionary in Russia for eight years before she and her family returned home to the States.
She now writes full-time as her husband runs a lodge on Lake Superior in northern Minnesota, where many of her books are set. She and her family enjoy hiking, canoeing, and being involved in their local church.
Several of her critically acclaimed novels have been ECPA and CBA bestsellers, were chosen as Top Picks by Romantic Times, and have won the RWA’s Inspirational Reader’s Choice contest and the American Christian Fiction Writers Book of the Year award. Five of her books have been Christy Award finalists. In addition to her writing, Susan loves to teach and speak at women’s events about God’s amazing grace in our lives. She also runs a writing community for authors.

Susan May Warren‘s newest book in the Christiansen Family Collection, When I Fall In Love,  has won over readers’ and critics’ hearts alike. With critical reviews like, “. . . an exquisite romance. Profoundly touching on the topic of facing fears, this book is a true gem,” and more than 60 five-star reviews at Amazon, When I Fall in Love is sure to please.

Susan has teamed up with some amazing food bloggers for a fun food challenge and a KitchenAid Mixer giveaway!


One grand prize winner will receive:

Grab your aprons and wire whisks and buzz on over to the When I Fall in Love website to learn more and enter the Hawaiian Chef Showdown! Susan is challenging you to make a Hawaiian-inspired dish using coconut, mango, or one of the other ingredients mentioned in the book. You’ll get extra points for creating your own recipe—plus she might share it on the When I Fall in Love site! Or if you’re not up for an adventure in the kitchen just click one of the icons below for easy entry.

Hurry, the giveaway ends on August 10th. All winners will be announced August 13th at Susan’s blog.


Don’t miss a moment of the fun; enter today and be sure to visit Susan’s blog on the 13th to see if you won!


What I Wish…

by adustyframe ~ August 4th, 2014

I wish that no one ever had to hurt again!

I know that is unrealistic. I seem to have unrealistic wishes. When I was a little kid, my mom would ask what I wanted for Christmas and I’d say, “I want everyone in the world to know Jesus.”

She would say, “Well that’s nice but I mean something I can buy you at the store.”

I really do wish no one had to hurt. I feel like we have hurt enough for everyone so life should just be smooth sailing for the entire world from here on out!

I hear people I know share things that have broken their hearts and I hurt and I wish I could stop their pain.

I read things online and I  wish I could take their hurt away.

I hate that there are so many hurts in this world.

It’s not that I think I’m some super human that could just shoulder everyone’s pain. It’s just that I know how hard it is to be in a place where everything hurts and the work of living takes so much out of you.

But then I remember how near the Lord was to me in our hurts. I remember how much I came to depend on him. I remember those who came along side of me and helped me carry my hurts.

And I know that in this world there will always be trouble, hurts, and sadness. I know that God wants to be near to them. God wants them to grow and depend on Him. God has people to come alongside of them and help them shoulder their burdens too.

I just wish….


From Outside The Frame

by adustyframe ~ August 1st, 2014

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Barely standing in places of pain

I liked this post on housekeeping. Housewifely

How to say no with confidence

These would be a pretty project. Watercolor quotes

If this table could talk~ good thoughts about family.

100 small things that can bring you joy

When we’re so busy keeping a family and a house we need to remember to eat and


12 Months

by adustyframe ~ July 31st, 2014

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Someone is one!

What a year! I am still often amazed and surprised at this precious bonus baby God gave us! He is such a joy! He’s almost always happy and everything makes him happy.

He loves people and waves as we go through the store. He expects people to stop and smile at him or talk to him!

He’s noticing babies–often these babies are 3 or 4 years old but he loves “babies”!

He enjoys books and looks at them for quite awhile (for a one year old).

He likes to make loud noises!

He’s saying several words and chattering all the time. He knows several signs as well.

He’s not walking yet and I’m ok with that.

He loves music and is always either singing or “dancing” when he hears music.

Happy Happy Birthday, Little Baby Nathan! We’re so glad you’re here and can’t imagine life without you!


Fabric Shower Curtain Liner~Money Saving Tip

by adustyframe ~ July 28th, 2014

Several years ago, I got tired of vinyl shower curtain liners.

They are cold and gross when you’re in the shower and then I’m sorry but I do not scrub those things—into the trash they go!

They are really inexpensive to buy but I just got tired of it.

I purchased a white fabric shower curtain and have been using it for a liner for years. I’ve been using it for at least 8 years?

At first, I balked at the $15.00 price tag but through the years, I’ve been so happy I purchased it.

If it gets gross, I just put it in the washer with hot water and some bleach. I don’t really use bleach for anything else around here but some things just ask for bleach!

I’m pretty sure there are lots of years of life left in my liner so I’m pretty sure it’s saving us money!