Our little guy loves to talk and has been copying us lately saying, “You never know!” He’s pretty funny (and cute!)
I was thinking of things we never know the other day and thought it would be a good post.
I thought about the time before anyone knew what was about to happen in our lives. I remember walking through the grocery store feeling so empty and burdened. I thought that no one looking at me would know. They wouldn’t know what we were going through or what I was thinking or feeling.
I used to walk through our house and see our photos and memories lovingly displayed and wonder what anyone would think who came in. They wouldn’t know what was hanging over us and what we were going to be going through.
There was 16 months between this day and the day Lee went to court. 16 very long months and no one knew but our pastor. During that time, I backed away from responsibilities and I became more and more withdrawn.
Most people didn’t understand and some people were very unkind to me. Looking back on it, perhaps we should have told everyone up front, but we didn’t even know for sure what was going to happen. We were just waiting.
But when I look back, I also want to say to some of the people “You didn’t know what I was dealing with” They never knew but instead of assuming that I didn’t want to fulfill responsibilities or that I didn’t care, I wish I had been offered mercy and grace.
I thought about another situation. Someone at church who is on the worship team is very demonstrative during music. A friend of mine visited one Sunday and later said to me, “I didn’t like all that arm waving. It looked like they were doing it for attention.”
Well, she and I were both raised in churches that didn’t really raise or wave arms and while I don’t raise my arms in worship, it doesn’t bother me if anyone else chooses to do so. But what my friend didn’t know?
That person had cancer and wasn’t sure of the prognosis at the time. Yet they were joyfully praising God not caring who didn’t approve.
The thing I want to remember and the thing I want you to consider is that you never know. You don’t know what the grumpy person at the store is going through. You don’t know what the person who rubs you the wrong way is going through. You don’t know why someone behaves the way they do unless you take time to find out.
I want to extend grace and mercy to people because I know how it feels when people assume things and act on their wrong assumptions. I’m not always good at this. I’m even feeling convicted as I type.
Do you have thoughts on this? How do you not assume or act on what you think is true of people? Any advice for me as I seek to please God more and more in this area?