Comments on: How to help a single mom Part 1 http://adustyframe.com/2006/12/14/how-to-help-a-single-mom/ I blog about what God is teaching us while my husband is in prison. Fri, 10 Feb 2012 09:45:19 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Lydia Parks http://adustyframe.com/2006/12/14/how-to-help-a-single-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-195143 Lydia Parks Sun, 06 Mar 2011 20:37:20 +0000 http://adustyframe.com/2006/12/14/how-to-help-a-single-mom/#comment-195143 This made tears well up in my eyes! I have been a single Mom for six years now, and I had four, young boys (ages 1-6), when my husband left. God has been SO GOOD to touch the hears of His people to reach out to us, and what a difference it has made. You are so right; you have no idea how much better a child's life will be, when you care about the plight of a singe Mom. It is hard, hard, hard, but WITH GOD, ALL things are possible! This made tears well up in my eyes! I have been a single Mom for six years now, and I had four, young boys (ages 1-6), when my husband left. God has been SO GOOD to touch the hears of His people to reach out to us, and what a difference it has made. You are so right; you have no idea how much better a child’s life will be, when you care about the plight of a singe Mom. It is hard, hard, hard, but WITH GOD, ALL things are possible!

]]> By: Jody http://adustyframe.com/2006/12/14/how-to-help-a-single-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-188927 Jody Fri, 03 Dec 2010 04:50:18 +0000 http://adustyframe.com/2006/12/14/how-to-help-a-single-mom/#comment-188927 Wow, so much of that is contained in a post I wrote but never posted. So true, and so important this time of year ... at least in this house. Wow, so much of that is contained in a post I wrote but never posted. So true, and so important this time of year … at least in this house.

]]> By: Remember Single Moms at Christmas | A Dusty Frame http://adustyframe.com/2006/12/14/how-to-help-a-single-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-188909 Remember Single Moms at Christmas | A Dusty Frame Thu, 02 Dec 2010 19:20:10 +0000 http://adustyframe.com/2006/12/14/how-to-help-a-single-mom/#comment-188909 [...] Part 1 [...] [...] Part 1 [...]

]]> By: Jacque http://adustyframe.com/2006/12/14/how-to-help-a-single-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-100589 Jacque Tue, 24 Feb 2009 20:46:42 +0000 http://adustyframe.com/2006/12/14/how-to-help-a-single-mom/#comment-100589 This is fantastic Lizzie! Perfect for GTH. :) You are a doll. May the LORD bless you and your sister! ~J This is fantastic Lizzie! Perfect for GTH.
:) You are a doll. May the LORD bless you and your sister!
~J

]]> By: westcoastsister http://adustyframe.com/2006/12/14/how-to-help-a-single-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-292 westcoastsister Wed, 15 Aug 2007 04:10:53 +0000 http://adustyframe.com/2006/12/14/how-to-help-a-single-mom/#comment-292 Great list.....you two did a fantastic job with this.......I have been blessed with a very caring church family.....I have a friend who gives us clothes all the time, another friend who emails several times a week and is a huge encouragement...and also doesn't accept money for babysitting....I am blessed to have lots of support and people who don't remind me all the time that I am a single mom....the best thing we can do as single moms is support each other with encouragement and prayers....love and hugs! Great list…..you two did a fantastic job with this…….I have been blessed with a very caring church family…..I have a friend who gives us clothes all the time, another friend who emails several times a week and is a huge encouragement…and also doesn’t accept money for babysitting….I am blessed to have lots of support and people who don’t remind me all the time that I am a single mom….the best thing we can do as single moms is support each other with encouragement and prayers….love and hugs!

]]> By: How to help a single mom Part 1 » The Covering http://adustyframe.com/2006/12/14/how-to-help-a-single-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-291 How to help a single mom Part 1 » The Covering Mon, 05 Mar 2007 02:14:53 +0000 http://adustyframe.com/2006/12/14/how-to-help-a-single-mom/#comment-291 [...] a single mom let us know too! The comments on my blog had some great discussion to. You can read here. **Part 2 coming [...] [...] a single mom let us know too! The comments on my blog had some great discussion to. You can read here. **Part 2 coming [...]

]]> By: MaggieRaye http://adustyframe.com/2006/12/14/how-to-help-a-single-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-290 MaggieRaye Wed, 03 Jan 2007 18:16:09 +0000 http://adustyframe.com/2006/12/14/how-to-help-a-single-mom/#comment-290 Hi There! Thanks for giving me the link to this post. Can I PLEASE repost it in it's entirety on my site - linking back to you, giving you credit, etc...????? This is soooo perfect and I know so many who read my blog that need to hear it from others.... Thank you so much for sharing!!!! May the Lord bless & keep you! MaggieRaye Hi There!
Thanks for giving me the link to this post. Can I PLEASE repost it in it’s entirety on my site – linking back to you, giving you credit, etc…?????

This is soooo perfect and I know so many who read my blog that need to hear it from others….

Thank you so much for sharing!!!!

May the Lord bless & keep you!
MaggieRaye

]]> By: Carol http://adustyframe.com/2006/12/14/how-to-help-a-single-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-289 Carol Wed, 27 Dec 2006 20:36:21 +0000 http://adustyframe.com/2006/12/14/how-to-help-a-single-mom/#comment-289 Very good post. I found it through EEEEMommy's link. I was a child of a single mom most of my childhood. Here are some ways the community reached out to us: A friend's dad used to take my sister and I to "Father-daughter" banquets and events. I saved the box he made for one of the dinners for us for the longest time. My uncle used to leave turkeys or hams on our porch early on Christmas morning and leave them anonymously. This went on for years. My aunt gave us money to spend a couple nights at a hotel with a swimming pool and was near a mall one year. She couldn't afford to pay for an entire vacation, but this was a blessing to Mom to be able to get away from home - and it was a wonderful vacation for us kids, who rarely got a family vacation, and almost never went to a hotel in those days. My aunt always bought us Christmas presents - even if the cousins drew names for Christmas. This was above and beyond. Neighbors often invited us kids to church. Mom didn't go to church in those days, and I probably wouldn't be a Christian today if it hadn't been for those kind neighbors who remembered to invite me to church with them. I loved hand-me-down clothes. New clothes were nice too, but I loved getting a sack of a BUNCH of clothes to wear. As a missionary now, I know how important financial gifts are when money is short... I didn't get many professional haircuts back in the days of mom's singlehood. Perhaps taking someone's child out for a haircut would be an idea. Remember to make them feel special - build their self-esteem every chance you get. Carol Very good post. I found it through EEEEMommy’s link.

I was a child of a single mom most of my childhood. Here are some ways the community reached out to us:

A friend’s dad used to take my sister and I to “Father-daughter” banquets and events. I saved the box he made for one of the dinners for us for the longest time.

My uncle used to leave turkeys or hams on our porch early on Christmas morning and leave them anonymously. This went on for years. My aunt gave us money to spend a couple nights at a hotel with a swimming pool and was near a mall one year. She couldn’t afford to pay for an entire vacation, but this was a blessing to Mom to be able to get away from home – and it was a wonderful vacation for us kids, who rarely got a family vacation, and almost never went to a hotel in those days.

My aunt always bought us Christmas presents – even if the cousins drew names for Christmas. This was above and beyond.

Neighbors often invited us kids to church. Mom didn’t go to church in those days, and I probably wouldn’t be a Christian today if it hadn’t been for those kind neighbors who remembered to invite me to church with them.

I loved hand-me-down clothes. New clothes were nice too, but I loved getting a sack of a BUNCH of clothes to wear.

As a missionary now, I know how important financial gifts are when money is short…

I didn’t get many professional haircuts back in the days of mom’s singlehood. Perhaps taking someone’s child out for a haircut would be an idea. Remember to make them feel special – build their self-esteem every chance you get.

Carol

]]> By: PrayerSister http://adustyframe.com/2006/12/14/how-to-help-a-single-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-288 PrayerSister Wed, 27 Dec 2006 05:26:35 +0000 http://adustyframe.com/2006/12/14/how-to-help-a-single-mom/#comment-288 perspective - if I am willing to indulge in an "extravagance" for myself or a friend, why not indulge someone else? pamper them? love them? love looks for ways to love, not just fulfilling the needs that have been mentioned. If all I ever do is fulfill the needs that have been mentioned & don't love completely, loving as I would love myself, I am sounding my own cymbals (sorry for the paraphrase). When we were pretty poor, my mom was willing to buy food to help others, giving them what she could also afford to feed us. It doesn't have to be overwhelming, just loving. So, I think to myself while I am shopping, if I'm willing to shell out some cash for this, who else can I serve while I'm at it? Who else needs the encouragement? Can I encourage with only the practical daily necessities of life? sure. But can I love & encourage at the same time, by sharing the abundant blessing God has shared with me? Absolutely! Not to sound my own cymbals, but we have some sr. citizens in our church who get a kick out of our bringing them ice cream, when they can't afford it on their social security. Is that wrong? No, it's an encouragment. Do we ignore their other needs & only serve through ice cream? of course not, but we try to find ways to spoil them, to remind them that we love them & still think of them as humans & friends, not just as projects. perspective – if I am willing to indulge in an “extravagance” for myself or a friend, why not indulge someone else? pamper them? love them?
love looks for ways to love, not just fulfilling the needs that have been mentioned.
If all I ever do is fulfill the needs that have been mentioned & don’t love completely, loving as I would love myself, I am sounding my own cymbals (sorry for the paraphrase).

When we were pretty poor, my mom was willing to buy food to help others, giving them what she could also afford to feed us. It doesn’t have to be overwhelming, just loving.
So, I think to myself while I am shopping, if I’m willing to shell out some cash for this, who else can I serve while I’m at it? Who else needs the encouragement? Can I encourage with only the practical daily necessities of life? sure. But can I love & encourage at the same time, by sharing the abundant blessing God has shared with me? Absolutely! Not to sound my own cymbals, but we have some sr. citizens in our church who get a kick out of our bringing them ice cream, when they can’t afford it on their social security. Is that wrong? No, it’s an encouragment. Do we ignore their other needs & only serve through ice cream? of course not, but we try to find ways to spoil them, to remind them that we love them & still think of them as humans & friends, not just as projects.

]]> By: KiwiNomad06 http://adustyframe.com/2006/12/14/how-to-help-a-single-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-287 KiwiNomad06 Mon, 25 Dec 2006 20:03:13 +0000 http://adustyframe.com/2006/12/14/how-to-help-a-single-mom/#comment-287 When I was a child, my father died so we were a single parent family. Someone used to leave money in the letterbox on Christmas morning. We never ever found out who it was. And Dad was a 'returned soldier' so each Christmas the Returned Servicemen's Association would arrive with a HUGE box of groceries and goodies. One lady from Church offered to babysit for an evening each week for a while so Mum could get out of the house and go to some nightclasses. When I was a child, my father died so we were a single parent family. Someone used to leave money in the letterbox on Christmas morning. We never ever found out who it was. And Dad was a ‘returned soldier’ so each Christmas the Returned Servicemen’s Association would arrive with a HUGE box of groceries and goodies.
One lady from Church offered to babysit for an evening each week for a while so Mum could get out of the house and go to some nightclasses.

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