Comments on: It’s not funny

By: Barbara H.

Barbara H. — Sat, 24 Feb 2007 16:22:56 +0000

This is so true. My father was an alcoholic, and I would wince when people made jokes about drunks or thought it was funny to act like they were drunk. It isn’t funny at all.

I thought the same thing when a dear friend’s mother died, and in that week I saw so many light references to death. As you said, maybe it was just a sensitive time, but I wince now when I hear jokes about death, hoping it is not painful for anyone near who may have lost someone.

By: Lani from The Wooden Porch

Lani from The Wooden Porch — Wed, 21 Feb 2007 19:58:27 +0000

You know, I’ve never given thought to it before, but thanks for mentioning it. I’ll be careful in the future with my words.

By: Janean

Janean — Sat, 17 Feb 2007 16:32:25 +0000

I told my exhusband, it’s like he’s on another planet. A totally different world, different societal structure. A city surrounded by razor wire. Even though I am angry and devastated by what he did, I still care about him and, frankly, would not wish prison on anyone.
I have, however, been guilty of saying I wish I was in jail. When he was in the county lockup and I was struggling with supporting four kids and dealing with the courts and the community aftermath of his crime, I once told him I wished I was in jail with three square meals and a roof over my head guaranteed. Instead I have to worry about where my kids’ next meal is coming from.
Sorry, just venting a little.
It’s nice to know someone understands how you feel.

By: Ame

Ame — Sat, 17 Feb 2007 05:06:37 +0000

i understand.

By: adustyframe

adustyframe — Fri, 16 Feb 2007 15:52:40 +0000

Thanks Ladies.

Hannah, I feel for your sister in law. I have thanked God many times that he only blessed us with one baby right now!
My husband isn’t innocent–I know I’ve said that before but I didn’t want you to miss that.
Things that don’t make sense and that are unfair have definitely happened, but he’s not innocent. Just wanted to clear that up.

By: Hannah

Hannah — Fri, 16 Feb 2007 09:11:05 +0000

I just wanted to let you know that I understand completely what you are saying. I have been reading your blog for a couple months now. I found it just after my older brother went to prison for the third time (he totally deserves to be there, though.) I started reading your blog because my sister-in-law has a five month old daughter and is pregnant with her second child and I found ways to encourage her as I read what you wrote. So, this is also a huge thank you.
(oh, and if I may, Patricia, I hate the mother-in-law jokes too, but for a different reason. I’m a daughter-in-law, and my m-i-l is absolutely wonderful!)

By: Amy

Amy — Fri, 16 Feb 2007 08:10:28 +0000

I don’t find it funny at all. I think some people lack sensitivity…

By: Patricia of Pollywog Creek

Patricia of Pollywog Creek — Fri, 16 Feb 2007 05:02:36 +0000

Maybe it is because you are sensative right now, but I understand. I feel the same way about mother in law jokes. Though I never told them, it didn’t bother me that other people did – until I became a mother in law.