Sabbath questions

by adustyframe ~ February 26th, 2007

I have been wondering for a long while how to incorporate a day of rest into our routine.

I am tired. Tired describes the tip of the iceberg.

I desire to include an entire day of rest but I am unsure how to do that.

When everything that needs doing must be done by me, my days are full of things that must be accomplished.

I work on Saturdays and rarely have a Saturday off. If I have it off it’s usually for a function that takes me out of the house and is another place I have to be.

We used to have Mondays as a sort of rest day. Now with homeschool, it’s a great day but it’s not a day off. I also have our women’s Bible study on Monday night. That refreshes my soul but it is still a place I have to be.

I wonder how others do this? I need rest. I crave it.

I just don’t know how to take an entire day off with no “to do” list. There is always laundry and clutter and items that must be mailed. Paperwork that has to be done. Ebay listings written and posted.

I think the easy answer is just don’t do any work on a certain day.

That is easy because it doesn’t answer how things get done if I’m not working on them for a whole day.

That may sound funny or martyr like. I do not mean it that way. I think that if you are a single mom reading this, you may understand what I’m saying. If I don’t do it it does not get done.

Because I am the wage earner and the store is up to me, I often have to work online or do paperwork on Sundays.

I don’t see a good way to change this.

Has anyone done this? Do you have stories how just taking a day of rest, put everything else in line and the work got done anyway?

I’m interested in your input, discussion, ideas.

Today we had snow day number 2 and no church due to blowing and drifting snow.

I chose to take today to rest and I did. I had Ebay to do, bills to pay, paperwork to catch up on, clutter to clean, etc. But I ignored it. I did take a rest. All I did today was cook, laundry, clean the cat box, shovel, had a friend over to play with my son, and did dishes.

I am completely serious when I say I rested today. Compared to a regular day, I did nothing.

I wonder if that helps paint the picture of what I’m trying to say. That really isn’t a day of rest is it?

I don’t know what the answer is. I do know that something has to give very soon.

So what say you?


5 Thoughts Shared to Sabbath questions

  1. Natalie

    I so uderstand what you mean about needing a day of rest. What i tend to do (well like to do at ay rate) is to get a friend to mine my dd for the day. I then spen this day workig my bum off. I get up early, change the beds, do all the washig, clean the bathroom, dust, vaccume, do all the dishes, catch up on all that email, filing and paper work and some times even cook to freeze. I like to make soup ( it is so easy to chuck everything in the pot and let it simmer for the day, just giving it a stir ever time you go past) to stick in the freezer to pull out when i am just to sleepy to deal with a healthy meal. This day leaves me exausted, but caught up and satafied that all that “needs” to be done. If there is time at the ed of the day i will sit and work on my homeschooling program, and try and get that orgaised, order books from the library etc.

    Then the next day i flake out. I hire movies, sit and snuggle my dd, sleep and read the day away. I try to leave the computer off, i turn the phoe down, and the answerig machinge on. I lock the door and keep the curtians closed. I tell those that may worry that i am having a day off.
    I find that by speding the day before workig hand ard and catching up that i dont feel so guilty for sitting aroud and taking the reat that i need.(it is so sad that we feel that guilt for taking the time that we need, but we all do) I find that by including my dd in my day of rest, she learns to enjoy quiet time, and it also brings me joy to just have a quiet day with her where i dont have to rush her, teach her or tell her that i am too busy.

    In my day to day living i also find the 5 minute rule works great. I sped 5 minutes working o a job, i may stick the dishes into the sink to soak while dd brushes her teeth, walk aroud picking up while i wait for the computer to “wake up”. I also LOVE my cordless phone. I spend my time talking on the phone tyding up. I fold clothes, wash dishes, put on a load of washing, even sweep the outside paths while talking on the phone. Remember that you can pray and worship (alone or with your son) while folding, cooking, or spending time tyding.

    Encourage your son in the 5 minute rule too. 5 minutes before lunch and dinner get him to tidy up his toys, school stuff, put away his washing, or ay other chores that he may be able to compleate. It helps if everything has a place and he knows what that place is. If you find it overwelming to even think about getting organised in this way, ask a friend or relitave (maybe your sister??) who seems to be organized in their own life, and some one who can be truthful with you. When getting organised being ruthless ca be called for. Do you really need all of those ……..??

    Hang in there and know that others out there do understand – expecially us single mothers.


  2. jodi_a4givensinner

    I soooooooooooooo TOTALLY get what you’re saying! (Especially about if you don’t do it, it doesn’t get done…I always felt like taking a day of rest was a punishment because of how difficult it became to try and recover from the day-o’-lazy, which is really how it felt…like a guilt-ridden day of being lazy while all the responsibilities called out my name…)

    Here’s my suggestion:

    See if there is a mature teenage girl or college student in your church who will come over one day a week to help clean. She can wash dishes, fold laundry, vacuume, etc. while you invest a lot of time getting other things (i.e. paying bills, etc.) done.

    You’d be amazed how much four hours with two people can really result in about 12-15 hours of work getting done, especially if it’s something that can happen every week on a regular basis. Maybe even check at the local Christian school to see if they have any outreach ministries (our local school had an entire class called “Community outreach” so for a few months we had about half the CLASS showing up at my house once a week!)

    Another idea: Take a day and make a TON of lasagnias, then freeze them. On your day of rest, eat lasagnia. No cooking!

    There isn’t any simple answer, unfortunately. It takes planning ahead…which makes it discouraging at times, because basically you have to add another “thing” to your weekly must-do list. . .

  3. Robin

    I struggle with this too. Every day there is laundry to do and food to cook and dishes to be done. My kiddos help, but then that’s not rest for them.

  4. Lisa

    I have been trying to do this for so long! I take Friday evening off–I don’t play with, read to or do much else with the kids. If they want to fix their own pancaked dinner they do. That’s about as close as I get….

  5. Dana Wilson

    Matt. 11:28-30 Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.

    Reading your post I was reminded of Mary and Martha.

    Luke 10:40-42 But Martha was cumbered about much serving, and came to him, and said, Lord, dost thou not care that my sister hath left me to serve alone? bid her therefore that she help me. 41 And Jesus answered and said unto her, Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things: 42 But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her.

    There is no doubt you have a lot to do and to get done. Perhaps planning a meal the day before, ready to go into the oven, paper plates, etc would be a good thing.
    Setting aside one day to be with the Lord, to rest might be a needful thing because you are loaded with a lot of things to take care of.

    You have my prayers.

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