Family Stress
by adustyframe ~ June 6th, 2007Do any of you have family stress?
With 10 people hanging around my normally very quiet (and very small!) house, there were bound to be a few tense times.
There was a huge tense time one night. I won’t go into details.
I’ll just say that feelings were very hurt and the volume was a bit loud.
Over the past several days, I’ve thought quite a bit about this.
I failed this test.
I’ve said here many times that I have to be who God wants me to be regardless of what anyone else says or does.
Yet when this situation occurred, I said things that were ugly! I was disappointed in myself. After all this learning and growing, I quickly reverted to old habits.
I was shocked at my sinful heart that wanted to justify my words and feelings.
Yes, my feelings were hurt. Yes the situation should not have occurred the way it did.
BUT that doesn’t matter. What matters is that I be the person God desires me to be regardless of anything or anyone else.
Proverbs 10:32 The lips of the righteous know what is acceptable: but the mouth of the wicked speaketh frowardness.
June 7th, 2007 at 7:22 am
It seems that we never stop growing as Christians. I find that as soon as I’ve conquered one small flaw and bent myself to God’s will, another area of my life opens up that needs work. I’m very thankful that our pateient God forgives our lapses and loves us anyway. I’m sorry the situation happened…I’ve been through a few myself and they’re never fun, especially when you’re the one getting your feelings hurt. I hope you and your family can learn from the incident and move past it.
June 7th, 2007 at 7:35 am
luckily God knows we are NOT perfect..and seeks for us to realize that we are imperfect, which you do, so you reflect you learn , you FORGIVE YOURSELF and move on to tommorrow….
we all get defensive, esp us mama bears when it comes to our family….that is how GOD made us, to protect them against injury..
June 7th, 2007 at 8:43 am
It is human nature to react to situations differently than we normally would when we are under stress. We react in a way that isn’t what we would like to have and it is not a character flaw, rather a reaction to stress. Overcrowded conditions, the wedding, fear of your husbands future, etc. are all stressful. Forgive yourself and go on, knowing that you are perfectly normal and much, much stronger than many of us. You are a wonderful Christian witness and your blog is uplifting and admirable. Keep the faith. Our God is a good and forgiving God. Blessings
June 7th, 2007 at 11:59 am
You have learnt so much recently…..we cannot learn everything all at once.Failure hurts but it is also God’sway of teaching and refining (again….and again….etc) Better to fail,repent and learn (no,I didn’t say never fail again) than not to be challenged. It is very hard to take undeserved and hurtful wordswithout seeking to justify….I know, and I struggle too. Chin up sister!
June 7th, 2007 at 6:13 pm
Thank you all.
I appreciate your heart in trying to make me feel better.
The truth is that it doesn’t matter if I’m in a stressful situation.I still am obligated to obey the Bible!
That’s why I shouldn’t have failed this test. God always gives us the strength to obey, if we choose to do so.