One of those “Single parenting stinks” episodes

by adustyframe ~ June 24th, 2007

Last week my washer started pouring black water out of the back.

I didn’t realize it was so bad until James came up from the basement and said, “Mom there’s water dripping in the basement.

I went down. Pouring better describes the scene I witnessed.

A lady at church let me wash a load in her washer. Then we went to the laundromat Friday night.

Did you know it cost $2.00 to wash a load of laundry?! wow.

Pastor looked at the washer but he’s not sure what to do with it.

Lee–my comedian husband said, “Just buy a new one.” Haha he’s so funny!

It’s probably a seal or gasket? I’m just praying there will be a solution that won’t be very costly. When Lee was home, he just took care of these things. I have no clue what to do.

Then Thursday night, James got his first ever ear infection.

He was in horrible pain and was screaming at me to do something.

I gave him tylenol, warm compresses, garlic oil in his ears, back rubs and held him on my lap on the couch while he screamed.

It was a long long long night.

I remember sitting there praying for him and saying, “Lord this is definitely one of the single parenting stinks moments.”

I know other moms spend sleepless night with sick babies. I’m not complaining about that. Caring for my son is my job!

I just couldn’t go get him more tylenol in the middle of the night. He was too miserable to take out. If Lee were home, he’d have run out at midnight to get something to help the poor boy.

There wasn’t a husband to help calm the hurting child, or to let me sleep in the morning. There wasn’t anyone to say, “I know you’re so tired. I’m sorry. You’re doing a good job.”

There wasn’t anyone to curl up next to me when I finally dropped into bed in the middle of the night.

Those are things I miss about Lee not being here. I miss the big things, the fun things, the  wonderful feeling of having a man around the house.

But I also miss the little ways we worked together as a team.

I know I’m not the first to say it and I won’t be the last, but single parenting stinks.


6 Thoughts Shared to One of those “Single parenting stinks” episodes

  1. Susanna

    Single parenting stinks……which is one reason why God instituted marriage and the family. I know you know it and I know it is none of your doing that you are where you are- I just don’t get why a lot of people seemingly choose to do it. BUT- God knows it stinks! He has promised not to leave or forsake, to grant us the strength that we need and to comfort us in all things. I pray that your single parent days may soon end- and I pray that those of us who have our husbands with us will appreciate what we have and daily bless God. Praying that James feels much better soon and that you get some much needed rest. It is so tough when a little one is ill.

  2. Amy

    Ugh, sounds like you had a hard night. Single parenting definitely stinks…I hope you get some much-deserved rest and that little James feels better soon!

  3. adustyframe

    Thanks Amy 🙂

    Oh Susanna! (hey there’s a song like that have you heard it?) I agree with you!
    I certainly don’t know why anyone would WANT to do this alone!

  4. picklesncucumbers

    What a night! I hope James is feeling better and that you can get some rest soon.

    Have you Googled the washer machine problem? Ours quit agitating a few months back…and no $$ to buy a new washer. I Googled the problem, printed out pictures on how to fix it, and located a part supplier all online. Hubs did the work once I researched it for him. The part wound up being only $20. Maybe someone from church can help with the repair? You know I’d send hubs over if we were neighbors!

  5. sara

    next time I even think about complaining about how hard I have it, I’m going to reread this entry. I hope James is feeling better – sounds like he was in a lot of pain.

    Also, I have a washing machine repair book that I’d be glad to send you. My email is on my blog. Otherwise, maybe you can get one at the library?

  6. Lisa

    Run a bent clothes hanger thru the hose from your washer. Could have a small sock in there.Also make sure the clamp isn’t just broken. Been there, done that. Survived two years of washing in the tub and hanging to dry. Take the Google advice, too!

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