An opportunity

by adustyframe ~ June 29th, 2007

Our church has been sponsoring a Bible club in the park on Wednesday nights.

We had quite a few un-churched children in our AWANA club last year. Pastor desired to continue  ministering to them.

The evenings have been enjoyable. We sing, eat, visit, listen to a Bible lesson, and watch the children play games.

Last night, I talked a bit with one of the moms. I have seen her before and I have spoken with her on occasion.

She usually keeps to herself a little bit. I wasn’t sure if she was shy or just not interested in talking with us. I’m sure it’s hard to break into a group of people that already know each other.

Last night, I stepped over by her while the kids were playing. I asked how they were doing, how the summer was going, things like that.

I had seen some unfamiliar Dads at the picnic last night. I asked, “Is your husband here?”

She looked away and said, “No. My husband won’t be coming.”

I said, “Oh? He doesn’t go to church?”

She was uncomfortable and I felt like I shouldn’t have asked.

She turned her head away and said, “No, my husband did something stupid and landed himself in jail.”

I personally know how much it takes to say that to someone. I knew for her to come to the church picnic and tell a “church lady” that her husband was in jail had to have been costly for her.

I felt a slight panic. I knew that I had to tell her about Lee.

I hate telling anyone, but I knew it wasn’t fair to leave her hanging in the breeze not knowing that I understood her pain.

I took a deep breath.

“My husband is in prison too.”

She looked at me surprised.

“For how long?” she asked.

I told her and asked how long her husband would be in prison.

She looked at me without blinking and said, “Life.”

That took my breath away. I really didn’t know how to respond.

I told her that I was sorry.

She opened up quite a bit to me. She is leaving him soon. She gave him all the chance she could. The crimes he committed are very grave. She said it’s actually a relief and now she and her children can move forward with their lives.

They will be ok. She has a nice job. She won’t be abused anymore. Her children will be safe.

Her story made me so sad. She was trying to put a brave spin on things. I could see the frustration and hurt in her eyes. Even though she will be able to move forward, it still hurts.

She told how she arrived home from work minutes before the police came in with a search warrant. She had no clue that anything was going on. She’s still confused and overwhelmed about that. I told her that was ok. I am still confused and overwhelmed by things.

I am glad that I told her.

I’m glad that I got over myself and my dislike of saying out loud,

“My husband is in prison.”

She needed understanding and support and someone to pray for her.

I needed to realize that God desires for me to step out of myself and see the needs of others.

When Lee called last night, I told him. He said, “SEE! God dropped that right in your lap!”

Yes he did.

2 Corinthians 1:4

Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God.


14 Thoughts Shared to An opportunity

  1. Ame

    wow, Lizzie – WOW.

    God is going to draw you out of yourself. There will come a day when you will be able to talk about all of this as though it’s normal … then you will wonder sometimes why others don’t think it’s normal, too!!!!!!! 🙂 I promise … that day will come … someday … continue following the lead of the Holy Spirit, though … and don’t have a panic attack over the thought of it … when you get to that place, which is already prepared for you, you will be ready, and it will simply be taking the next step in your journey on this earth 🙂

    awesome, girl!!!

  2. Susanna

    I echo Lee’s ‘see’! No way would I have had any idea how to adequaltely respond to her without her thinking…..yeah yeah like you know. May God bless your contact with this lady- maybe this is the beginning of her journey to the Lord. Husbands being in jail may not be common ground that you want to have……but it is common ground. In this day and age that is hard to find.

  3. Patricia

    A divine appointment for sure! Thank you so much for sharing that. It is so exciting to hear how God is working in your life. To God be the glory! (((((Hugs)))))

  4. Es

    What a wonderful opportunity God gave you. So glad you listened to Him speak and you spoke to her and her need. There are so many hurting people. God entwines our lifes with others who need His words of comfort, love & concern through us. I want my life to tell for Jesus!! That every where I go men, women, children may know of His Great love. I might add another keep listening for opportunities. Then keep obeying Him as He moves in your heart. I believe He has a hugh work for Lee and you Lizzie.

  5. becky

    I stepped over by her …..

    wow, gotta believe He smiled

  6. The NON-Superwoman

    I love how God works good through tribulations. Through your own pain, you were able to touch her and in turn offer comfort! Praise God!

  7. emilyhope

    Wonderful. The trials and tribulations we go through help prepare us to help another.

  8. Monica

    How very coool!!!! It is so incredible to see glimpses of God’s perfect plan for everything and how he can use the hardest circumstances for good!!! Great for you for trusting Him and obeying that leading. I know it must not have been easy. I am proud of you.

  9. Amy

    Wow, that’s amazing. It’s incredible how what we think are the worst things in our lives can be used by God to reach out to others. Lizzie, you are such a faithful testimony to God’s love and kindness. You LIVE your faith every day and I pray that God will bless you, Lee and James for it.

  10. Christy

    Oh, Lizzie. I was crying as I read this. How wonderful!!!!

    Amazing grace …

  11. PrayerSister

    All I can say is, I’m speechless.
    Thank you for being willing to open up to her, you were the exact person she needed that day.
    “I, being in the way, the Lord led me.”

    Praying for you as you witness to her
    Praying for her, too

  12. Ingrid

    Wow! I am crying. I am always so moved when I hear stories of how God uses people in their own situations to help others out. I am so glad you listened to God urging you to speak to this woman. I hope you wil be able to keep in touch with her!

  13. anonymom

    What a moving story. That woman was so brave to be honest with you, as you were brave to comfort her.

  14. reutersramblings

    Wow, What a touching story. I hope that her child will return to AWANAS and that you will be able to see her again. God does wonderful things.

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