Being a father in prison is not an easy task for Lee.
I think he does an excellent job with the ugly situation we find ourselves in.
Yesterday, when we got home, James had a letter from daddy.
“Dad loves you and misses you. Thank you for the pictures. You are so cute. Here are some verses I would like you to read and memorize.”
Romans 2:16… God shall judge the secrets of men by Jesus Christ according to my gospel.
Hebrews 4:13 Neither is there any creature that is not manifest in his sight: but all things are naked and opened unto the eyes of him with whom we have to do.
Romans 14:12 So then every one of us shall give account of himself to God.
Today, when I visited Lee, he told me the “rest of the story.”
He relayed a phone conversation to me that he and James had.
Lee said, “You’re such a good boy. Mom always gives me a good report on you. I never hear any bad things about you.”
James said, “Well dad, that’s because sometimes I’m a little sneaky.”
Lee and I had a roaring laugh over that this morning. It WAS funny that a little guy would put that into words.
I’m so proud of Lee for realizing that although it was a funny statement, it’s a serious character issue that needs to be addressed. He took the time to look up the verses and send the card home to James.
He gave me the heads up to know that I have to watch for sneakiness.
Lee said that he used to be sneaky and feel like he was getting away with things. He doesn’t want James to think that is ok.
We have worked very hard to allow Lee to parent positively while he’s away.
I never have Lee correct James on the phone for things.
I do not think that is fair.Their only interactions are on the phone or by mail. I don’t want them to be negative experiences for James.
That puts the burden on me. I have to be the one to correct James all the time. There is no having daddy deal with it when he gets home. No daddy backing me up when a little boy takes liberties.
There have been a couple times during the phone conversation that James has spoken in a sassy tone of voice to me. Lee corrects him then. I think that’s ok when Lee is right there at the time the behavior occurs. I just don’t want James to dread talking to daddy because the whole conversation is discipline time.
The letter Lee sent home was truly a positive way to address the “sneaky” issue.
I am thankful that he remains actively involved in our home and our lives.