Just like me

by adustyframe ~ July 29th, 2007

On Friday, I met with a group of women just like me.

We all have husbands in prison.

Most of us recognized each other from visits. I was invited by the woman I had lunch with before. I wrote about that here.

I settled right in feeling very comfortable even though I was surrounded by women I didn’t really know.

There was nothing I could say that would shock them. There was nothing I could hear that would shock me.

Sitting in a room of women that know just how hot that visiting room is, or how grouchy that guard is was a fabulous experience.

In some ways, it helps me to know that I am not exaggerating. I am not making it up.

There is nothing wrong with me that I am feeling the way I feel. I was just exactly like each one of them.

“Overwhelmed” was a word I heard often. Completely overwhelmed only begins to scratch the surface of this.

When I described how somedays I WANT to go several places including visiting a friend, errands, or taking James somewhere, but I simply cannot do more than one or two things. They all shook their heads “YES”.

When I told the story of seeing my neighbor working in the visiting room they didn’t tell me that I shouldn’t care so much. They didn’t tell me that I have nothing to be ashamed of.

(All appropriate things to say to me by the way.)

They gasped and said, “OH NO!” they know how it would have felt to find their neighbor there.

It was a very encouraging and uplifting evening.

One of the ladies said, “I’ve been listening to you talk this whole time and you sound so HEALTHY!”

I told her that it was only the Lord and his working in my life. If it were up to me I wouldn’t have done all this growing.

We did some laughing. We vented frustrations. We asked each other questions. We talked about a Bible study/support group that may be starting soon.

We prayed together.

I’m glad that I went.


9 Thoughts Shared to Just like me

  1. Ame

    YAY!!! YAY!!! YAY!!!

    There’s nothing like it, is there … being a part of a support group of those going through the exact same thing. What an incredible gift from God!!!

    What amazing freedom there is in those places. WOW!!! God is awesome!!!

    You ought to post this on The Covering 🙂

  2. Christy

    That’s wonderful!! I’m so glad you were able to get together with these ladies.

  3. Kimberly

    I’m glad you went to. It always helps to be surrounded by those that are walking in your shoes. Nothing besides the love and peace that God gives us can come close to the feeling of oneness you share with others that “know” your pain, frustration and joy.
    I am discovering that through my Domestic Violence Support Group. Instead of feeling alone I am surrounded by others that can complete my sentences, nod their heads in agreement and share my pain and grief without saying a word. Their smiles, hugs and nods say it all. God knew that man could not live alone and that we were not meant to separate ourselves from others especially during trials and trying times. Isn’t it wonderful how He supplies our needs and desires. We are truly blessed by His goodness and His mercy but especially the unconditional love He bestows upon each one of us in spite of our own shortcomings.

  4. Heather

    That sounds wonderful. There can be such a comfort in not being alone.

  5. To Know Him

    Thanks for the comment on my blog… I read your post about Mary and Martha… I don’t know your whole story, but I can see that you are trusting God, even when it doesn’t make sense. Blessings to you, and I love the title of your blog.

  6. Dana

    That is cool!

  7. Deborah Li

    I’m glad the LORD has blessed you with this support group. I’ll pray that you will be an encouragement to each other and also will lift each other up and push one another to seek the LORD more and more. 🙂

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