Marriage Seminar

by adustyframe ~ September 28th, 2007

The day started with a headache that lasted all day, despite taking a pain reliever.

It made my day less pleasant. I think if I could have taken a small nap, I’d have been ok, but headaches are a fact of life for me and I have them often, so I made it. I wasn’t about to miss this day!

My Titus 2 friend and her husband took me to the prison and picked me up in the afternoon–all on her husband’s birthday! I am so thankful for their help.

When I got there, I chatted with some of the ladies that I see from time to time.

We went into the overflow visiting room. Lee came in along with the other husbands.

There was coffee to drink and of course the inevitable sticky name tags.

We chatted for a few minutes until it was time to get started. We sat in a circle. I think there were 16 couples, 3 facilitators, and 1 guard.

There are no extra privileges in the seminar, all visiting room rules must be observed.

We all shared about our summer and then they read an article on marriage and we worked through the elements of a good marriage. Writing symbols on a chart and working as a group to illustrate the element we were given.

Lee put his arm across the back of my chair during one portion.

His hand resting on my back.

Tears stung my eyes.

It has been over a year since my husband has put his arm around me while sitting together.

This sitting next to  one another was very special. We always have to sit across from one another in the visiting room.

Here we spent the whole day sitting next to one another.  I felt so loved sitting with my husbands arm around me.

We were served a very fancy lunch. With goblets and cloth napkins.

We sat with another couple, and I’ll have to write about that later.

They served chicken breast stuffed with cheese and basil with tomatoes, a pasta with a cheese, garlic sauce, garlic bread, chicken dumpling soup, salad, German chocolate cake, drinks.

It was so nice. I’m sure that it was even nicer for Lee because they don’t eat “real” food on real dishes.

It almost felt normal. Just for a few hours.

During the break, Lee and I walked outside and sat across from each other (rules) at a picnic table to talk and soak in some sun.

In the afternoon, we watched a Gary Smalley video. I was delighted to find the seminar is very Christian based.

At the end, we gathered around to  discuss what we want to work on, or what we learned, or comments about where our marriage is.

I will say that we didn’t really learn anything new. But it was a delightful day. I am so thankful for the volunteers that drive quite a distance and come up monthly to host these seminars, probably at their own expense. What a blessing.

After the seminar, I was able to stay for 2 hours to visit with Lee in the regular visiting room.

He said my new haircut was “sassy” and he liked it a lot. It was nice to have a new haircut. It made me feel special to be able to be “pretty” for him.

So there is the day in a nutshell. I’ll probably share a few more things about the day soon.

Thanks so much for your prayers and your excitement for us. I am very blessed to have you as friends.


8 Thoughts Shared to Marriage Seminar

  1. Ame


    This just makes me smile 🙂

    God is good 🙂

    Yes:) God is very good.

  2. Barbara H.

    So glad you got to do this! Sounds like a special day, even just to be with Lee and do some different things.

    Thanks, Barbara. It was special just to be there with him for so long.

  3. Deborah

    that’s special! I’m glad you got to go and spend time with Lee! 🙂

    Thanks, Deborah.

  4. Kari

    Your post just brought tears to my eyes ~ especially “It almost felt normal.”

    Have I told you my husband has worked in corrections for most of his professional life? Adult, then juvenile, and now adult again. We – especially my husband – have such a softened heart to men (and women) who find themselves incarcerated. Dh is the Director of Mental Health Services for the prison where he works. I’m going to tell him about this seminar!

    Love to you, and prayers flying up on your behalf!


    Kari, I don’t think I’ve ever heard that’s what your husband does. I wonder if those inmates know how blessed they are to have a man who has a soft heart toward them working in that capacity?

  5. Christy

    Wonderful. Thanks for letting us know how it went! We’ve been anticipating your post. Allen asked me Thursday night, “Has Lizzie posted how their seminar went?” We were thinking of you all especially that day. Love, Christy

    Thank you, Christy:) That’s sweet that your husband also wondered. 🙂 Thank you for your thoughts and prayers.

  6. Susanna

    I am so pleased that the day went well and was special to you:) Am also glad to hear that it was Christian based….I was going to ask about that aspect….that must have been an extra blessing to you both.

    Thanks, Susanna. Yes! I was pleased to find it wasn’t secular.

  7. Jenn

    I’m so happy you were able to attend the seminar despite all of the challenges you faced to get there.

    It sounded like a lovely day – from the wonderful lunch to the quality time and closeness to Lee.


    Thanks, Jenn.

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