Rose Bushes

by adustyframe ~ March 25th, 2008


Last summer, my father in law brought over some cuttings from his tea rose bushes.

I planted them in the front of the house.

I tenderly cared for them all summer. The heat proved to be too much for two of the plants.

The middle plant did really well though. I’d water it and pull the weeds away from it. I watched as it sent out tiny green shoots that also grew.

“That’s just like our marriage.” I thought.

We have to care for it tenderly. We have to give it time and the things it desperately needs.

The little green shoots were such an encouragement to me. Marriages that are being repaired or rebuilt sometimes send out little green shoots too.

You have to keep your eyes open so you don’t miss them.

A word spoken in love instead of being snarled in annoyance. Extra time spent at home.

A note left on the table signed “love”. A phone call in the middle of the day, “just because.”

I am a firm believer in looking on the bright side. If your marriage is trying to send out some little green shoots, nurture them. Don’t pluck them out because they’re not “big enough” or because they’re not exactly what you wanted.

I’m hoping my rose bush will bloom with some pretty roses this year. If not, you can rest assured that I will not be plucking out the green shoots. I’ll keep caring for it so that it can blossom very soon.


10 Thoughts Shared to Rose Bushes

  1. cheri

    I’ve been lurking but not commenting. Thank you so much for today’s wisdom. I forwarded to someone dear to me who’s struggling in her marriage.

    Thank you for “de-lurking”. I’m always glad to “meet” my readers. Thank you for your kind words and for sharing this with a friend.

  2. Barbara H.

    This is beautiful, Lizzie, and a good reminder.

  3. Beth

    Excellent post Lizzie.

  4. Susan

    Dear Lizzie, Thanks for this and for praying for me, I really need and appreciate it. Have you always been like this or was there a time in your marriage when you felt differently? I struggle so much with hopelessness, feeling trapped, etc… And my husband has changed a great deal. There are lots of little green shoots all over the place. Often I think of your situation and I say “well if she can do it, so can I”. I pray God will change my heart and make me as positive as you are. Sincerely, Susan

    Susan, Have you read much of my archives? I am just wondering because I have quite a few posts about how hard things were for me in the past. God has really done a work in my own heart. He did that before he ever changed my husband.

    No, this change in our marriage is relatively new and very miraculous.
    Hang in there:)! Do you want to email me privately?

  5. Susanna

    Owch. You got me. I am so bad at treating those little shoots with contempt or even annoyance because they are not what I want. Thanks for pointing it out to me ( and no, my marriage is not in trouble but knowing my sinful nature I see how easily it could be)- I must not take things fro granted and assume it will all be ok.

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  7. Christy

    Lizzie, I enjoyed this post very much and linked to it from my blog: Redemption in Marriage.

    Thank you:)

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