by adustyframe ~ April 29th, 2008

I have to shake my head at people sometimes. The things people say!

I met a lady at James’ Tae Kwon Do class. While the kids do their thing, some of the moms sit around and chat. I usually knit. That’s always a conversation starter. Everyone wonders what I’m working on.

One lady is actually very nice but she is rather blunt. She is from another country so I give her the benefit of the doubt.I  haven’t shared with them about Lee’s incarceration. It’s none of their business and they are complete strangers.

I also don’t wear a tattoo on my forehead that says, “My husband is in prison!”

So last week, while I was knitting, she sat at the table across from me. We talked about various things and then she said,

“Don’t you want to have more children?”

I said, “Well sure maybe someday.”

She said, “It’s just not happening huh? Maybe you need to lose some weight.”

Well I DO need to and I am working on it and actually doing very well.

However,  I’m fairly certain that my weight has nothing to do with the fact that we don’t have another child.

I just smiled at her.


8 Thoughts Shared to People

  1. Liza's Eyeview

    Just like when last year one of the people at church asked me if I am pregnant.

    (My hubby already had a nip nip several years ago!)

    Yep, it’s my “protruding” belly with my loose blouse.

    Lesson for everyone: Don’t ask someone of they are pregnant even if they look like one 🙂

    oh yes… PEOPLE!


    Good lesson:)!

  2. TransitionGirl

    that was so rude. i hate when people do things like that.

  3. Pam

    Oh My goodness……it never ceases to amaze me when people say things like that….it is like they have no filter… their head….out their mouth….oh and by the way I am working on losing the weight I gained when my daughter was born…..39 years ago (smile) God Bless, Pam

    Lol Pam;)

  4. Kim

    Yup, loosing weight. That’s definitely it!


  5. Vikki

    UGH! I’m shaking my head along with you.

    You handled it perfectly, though. 🙂

    By the way, this is my first time commenting, but I’ve been visiting your blog regularly for a few months and REALLY enjoy it!

    Blessings to you and your family,


    Hello Vikki:) Thanks for letting me know you’ve been reading. I really appreciate hearing from new commenters. Don’t be a stranger!

  6. Jenn

    Oh my!

  7. Ame

    “However, I’m fairly certain that my weight has nothing to do with the fact that we don’t have another child.” hehehehehe

    people rarely think. i try not to judge b/c of all the times i’ve stuck my big ol’ whoppin foot in my mouth!

    since my girls look very little alike, i often get, “are they both yours?” and then they’re thinkin they have different dads. oh well.

    I’ve stuck my foot in my mouth before too;) I just try to not ask if I’m not certain.

  8. Susanna

    Uh hu…….I suppose it could be a reason ! 6 Months after I had Daniel, someone who remembered hearing I was pregnant said ‘oh, you are really blooming now…’ I smiled sweetly 🙂

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