Comments on: What not to say~repost

By: Lisa notes...

Lisa notes... — Sat, 18 Sep 2010 20:19:29 +0000

I’m reading back through several of your older posts and am so encouraged by your transparency. I have no clue what all you’re going through, but I sense some great life lessons that I can learn from you. Just had to stop here long enough to tell you that you are serving a great purpose under a great God.

And now back to my reading…

By: Janet

Janet — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 20:19:17 +0000

Lizzie, I love this post. There are so many rude things people ask, and I have always felt obligated, out of politeness, to answer anyway. The Lord is teaching me that I don’t have to answer these people anything.

By: Pam

Pam — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 22:48:52 +0000

I read this once and I think it is a good one:
I’ll forgive you for asking me that question and you will have to forgive me for NOT answering” God Bless

That is a good one. Although I don’t know about the “you’ll have to forgive me for not answering” because some questions really should not asked;).

By: Dana

Dana — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 21:49:37 +0000

I have been thinking over “blanket statements”
My best girlfriend who is a wonderful christian lady has a son that is in prison. Sunday in church a man was commenting on the Sunday School lesson and made the statement that all these guys in prison its because their parents didn’t discipline them and laughed and thought it was funny when they did mean things as a child. That statement pierced my friend through and she had to get up and leave Sunday School to maintain her composer. My friends mothering resembled nothing in that statement.

Blanket statements have a great potential to hurt people unintentionally.

Ouch! Did the teacher know her situation? That happened to me once. An offhand comment making light of prison. It was by someone who knew and I did confront them. But it was “no big deal”. I think that as Christians, when we hurt someone whether or not we intended to, it is a big deal and the Bible lays out ways to make things right.
I’m sorry for your friend.

By: cheri

cheri — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 20:57:26 +0000

Lizzie – thank you so much for sharing. I think it’s also important to note that sometimes people aren’t trying to be…rude, but the kindness in them just doesn’t come through in their words.

I can’t imagine walking your walk with such strength and dignity. God is blessing you daily, truly He is!

Thank you, Cheri.
I agree with you in a sense that people maybe aren’t trying to be rude. But I will challenge them to ask themselves if they are acting in a manner that conveys care? If I know about a hurt in someone’s life, I try to be compassionate. My Mom taught us to pray before we speak. It’s a really good principle and I’m sure has saved me from being rude.
So I guess I’m saying maybe they aren’t intending to be rude, but they are also not intending to be compassionate or caring either.

By: EEEEMommy

EEEEMommy — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 18:18:56 +0000

#5 is so good. That’s one that gets tossed around all the time in Christian circles. The truth is that God very often gives us more than we can handle, because it is in those times that we must rely on Him. If we could handle it all on our own, we wouldn’t need Him at all. A blogger friend who just had a baby with Downs syndrome just posted on this as well.

I wrote on this too. It’s very true that God gives more than we can handle. If we could carry it ourselves we wouldn’t see our need for dependence on him. It’s true that he doesn’t tempt us above what we’re able, I think that’s talking about tempting to sin.

By: Beth

Beth — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 16:09:07 +0000

Lizzie,
Very nice repost. I never thought you whined or do now. Your Mother is very wise. We must go through the trial to REALLY know what it is all about. Love you Lizzie, give our love to Lee & James.

That’s good to know;). I never ever want to be a whiner. Telling the truth about the hard times is one thing, but whining is definitely another.