Comments on: What hurt you? http://adustyframe.com/2008/08/11/what-hurt-you/ I blog about what God is teaching us while my husband is in prison. Wed, 23 May 2012 16:15:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Which “props” am I leaning on? | A Dusty Frame http://adustyframe.com/2008/08/11/what-hurt-you/#comment-47555 Which “props” am I leaning on? | A Dusty Frame Wed, 20 Aug 2008 04:46:03 +0000 http://adustyframe.com/?p=1195#comment-47555 [...] I answered the question “What hurt you?” I mentioned broken [...] [...] I answered the question “What hurt you?” I mentioned broken [...]

]]> By: Alesha http://adustyframe.com/2008/08/11/what-hurt-you/#comment-45453 Alesha Mon, 11 Aug 2008 20:27:27 +0000 http://adustyframe.com/?p=1195#comment-45453 Good words of wisdom here! Thanks, Alesha Good words of wisdom here!

Thanks,
Alesha

]]> By: Marie http://adustyframe.com/2008/08/11/what-hurt-you/#comment-45439 Marie Mon, 11 Aug 2008 18:33:32 +0000 http://adustyframe.com/?p=1195#comment-45439 Lizzie, thanks for this: <i>Another reason for not blogging about everything that hurt me is the danger and tendency for that to lead to bitterness. Bitterness=harbored hurt.</i> It's a good reminder. A mutual friend of our and I were talking yesterday, and we both realized how our tongues can get ahead of us in the types of situations you described. Not only can it lead to bitterness, but it can lead to our giving a bad witness in front of non-Christians (us not living up to our calling as laid out in Ephesians). This whole hurt=> bitterness cycle is probably the biggest thing I struggle with as a Christian, and it affects everything else I think or try to do for Christ. It is (for example) so much easier to write a check to a charity than it is to forgive someone who has deliberately and repeatedly wronged us, and is totally unrepentant. Just this morning, before I read this post, I was "discussing" this whole problem of mine, and how it affects my relationship with Christ. (Your word "toxic" is very precise). He led me to Ephesians 4, most of which I'd already underlined in red on a PREVIOUS go-round with the Lord about this root of bitterness. We can't overcome it on our own. We just can't change our own self-protective nature. Only He can, in His strength. I just have to keep going right back to the Cross, thinking about all He endured and why. It helps to remember how Jesus treated Judas, the betrayer, (with impartial kindness) even knowing he'd be facing God's wrath. Lizzie, thanks for this:

Another reason for not blogging about everything that hurt me is the danger and tendency for that to lead to bitterness.

Bitterness=harbored hurt.

It’s a good reminder. A mutual friend of our and I were talking yesterday, and we both realized how our tongues can get ahead of us in the types of situations you described. Not only can it lead to bitterness, but it can lead to our giving a bad witness in front of non-Christians (us not living up to our calling as laid out in Ephesians).

This whole hurt=> bitterness cycle is probably the biggest thing I struggle with as a Christian, and it affects everything else I think or try to do for Christ. It is (for example) so much easier to write a check to a charity than it is to forgive someone who has deliberately and repeatedly wronged us, and is totally unrepentant.

Just this morning, before I read this post, I was “discussing” this whole problem of mine, and how it affects my relationship with Christ. (Your word “toxic” is very precise). He led me to Ephesians 4, most of which I’d already underlined in red on a PREVIOUS go-round with the Lord about this root of bitterness. We can’t overcome it on our own. We just can’t change our own self-protective nature. Only He can, in His strength. I just have to keep going right back to the Cross, thinking about all He endured and why. It helps to remember how Jesus treated Judas, the betrayer, (with impartial kindness) even knowing he’d be facing God’s wrath.

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