It is so much easier to rely on those tangle ways you can see then the secret ways of God, isn’t it? The fact that you have made it this far and have seen so much growth and change- in you, your husband, your marriage- as well as all the provision from God is an awesome testimony to His goodness and faithfulness.

People are human and we cannot expect much from them, but God is, well as my pastor puts it GOD (said in a deep massive voice). Keep focusing your eyes on Him and don’t let others lack of better judgment cloud your vision.

I like how your pastor says “God”. ! Thank you for the understanding.

I think sometimes, too, people mean well but don’t think through things when they offer something, and then when it’s needed they find they can’t. I’ve had that happen to me, only in lesser situations than what you described, and usually involving time.

A lady at our school recently was discussing her elderly father-in-law’s physical problems and commented, “What he needs to do is move here.” I immediately thought, “But you’re never home! That wouldn’t help him!” She and her husband work 40+ hours a week plus sometimes in the evening — if her fil moved here he’d still be pretty much alone most of the time. But she just had that impulse to want to take care of him without thinking through the practicality of it.

I’m wondering, too, if the folks in your situation had the means to help when they first offered but then didn’t later on — or if they had a sum of money they wanted to use for someone, and when you didn’t need it then, they offered it to someone else.

Whatever the situation, though, I know it doesn’t lessen the hurt and disappointment of finding out something you were counting on didn’t come through. You re so right that people can disappoint us in many ways, but Jesus never does. And it is a good reminder for us to think first before offering help and then to come through once we do offer.

Thanks for your thoughts:).
I think there can be a myriad of reasons that they didn’t follow through. I understand that logically:). But you’re right that knowing that doesn’t lessen the struggle I had to deal with.
Perhaps if people offer something and can’t follow through, it would just be better to be honest at the point rather than letting the offer wave in the breeze as though it still exists.
That I could definitely respect.