Something you do not know…
by adustyframe ~ October 22nd, 2008In the spirit of being honest and transparent, I realized there’s something you do not know.
I have shared much about our marriage. I told you how bad things were here.
I also told you that I chose to honor the covenant I entered into when I married Lee.
I shared some of the things that I did to fight for my marriage here.
However, there is one big reason I chose to stay with Lee that I have not shared here.
The simple fact is that I’m stubborn.
I come from a long line of stubborn people. Lee would be dancing with glee to hear me admit this! (Sisters, if you’re reading I’m sorry but you know it’s true don’t you!?)
We are very strong mindeded, determined people and when we make a decision it’s made. This can be good or bad.
This stuborness is one reason that I kept my store open a year past the time I knew I should close it. It was hard for me to admit that it hadn’t been the very best decision I could have made.
I joke that I stayed with Lee because I refused to do all this praying and crying over him only to leave him. Then some other woman would reap the benefits of MY prayers and tears. Nope! I’m going to be the one reaping the benefits of fighting for my husband.
So there you have it. I’m not some big super good person. I’m just plain old stubborn!
October 22nd, 2008 at 8:00 am
Thanks for sharing. Maybe being stubborn makes you some big super person! I think its good to be stubborn for good things. Fighting for your man is a good thing!
October 22nd, 2008 at 8:12 am
I believe stubbornness is also a gift from the Lord!
October 22nd, 2008 at 8:13 am
Praise the Lord for that stubborness! Love is a choice and sometimes it’s a hard choice… but oh what blessings it reaps!
I admire your tenacity, your drive and your commitment! You, Lizzie, are an inspiration!
October 22nd, 2008 at 8:57 am
This post reminded me of sitting at the family dinner table when I was a kid listening to my parents arguing over which of them was responsible for making us kids so stubborn; let’s just say we came by the trait honestly on both sides!
HAHA! That argument probably occurred at our dinner table too! LOL!
October 22nd, 2008 at 9:10 am
That must be why we became friends. I’m told I can be very stubborn! Keep up the fight!
October 22nd, 2008 at 10:18 am
I prefer the term “tenacious”. That’s from one stubborn person to another! (At least, my husband says I’m stubborn. I don’t think I am, really).
October 22nd, 2008 at 11:28 am
Well, in this case I think it is jno bad thing! All our character triats can be used for good or bad…praise God your ‘refusal to give up’ has re-gained you your husband.
October 22nd, 2008 at 11:31 am
And you just keep on being stubborn! LOL
Seriously though, I wish that other people would dig in their heels and determine to keep their commitments with such tenacity!!!
I have a friend whose husband is just so willing to let it go, after 13 years, and 4 kids!!! Throw in the towel now??? I don’t think so!
October 22nd, 2008 at 3:06 pm
See? Stubborn isn’t always bad.
October 26th, 2008 at 11:52 pm
hmmmm…..I don’t know if stubborn is the right word for it…..maybe tenacious, strong-willed, or determined would be better descriptors….but then again, I wouldn’t know anything about being stubborn……
HAHA!
October 27th, 2008 at 5:17 pm
(Grin) Love it!
October 31st, 2008 at 6:15 am
In this case, stubbornness is an excellent quality. I wish that more people were stubborn in this area.
I pray that if ever I am in a situation where either my husband, myself, or both of use want to give up on our marriage, I will be too stubborn to take the easy way and give up.
God bless you for your example.
January 27th, 2009 at 10:46 pm
“I joke that I stayed with Lee because I refused to do all this praying and crying over him only to leave him. Then some other woman would reap the benefits of MY prayers and tears. Nope! I’m going to be the one reaping the benefits of fighting for my husband.”
Well said!!! I refuse to let another woman reap the benefits of my prayers and tears, too!!! =)