When we went to the Fireproof seminar a week ago, the first session was by Gary Smalley.

Here’s what he shared about forgiveness.

1. Heap massive honor on the other person. The higher we value a person the easier it is for us to be soft with them.

During an anger producing situation, it’s too easy to be harsh. We must rememember how much he value or honor the person.

2. High honor of another individual causes you to understand another’s pain.

If they see you understanding it opens their heart to respond to you.

3. High honor forces a confession of wrong.

If you highly honor another, you are willing to admit what you have done is wrong. It shows that they’re too valuable to you to be treated that way.

4. High honor opens their heart to touch. A heart closed to another refuses to be touched.

5. High honor allows you to seek forgiveness and be willing to wait until they are ready to grant it.

In this post, I explain his concept of honor.

He shared this quote,

“Anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to get sick.”

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