James meets the Parole Officer
by adustyframe ~ December 16th, 2008Last week, when I went to collect Lee’s clothing and items, his parole officer met me at the facility. She offered to help, but I declined telling her I didn’t expect her to do that.
She stood around and watched as James and I picked up Lee’s things and carried them to our car. James threw things away and packed things for me. Then he grabbed items to carry for me. At one point I said, “Thanks, buddy, you’re a good helper.”
Lee’s parole officer said, “He IS a really good helper. He’s a good boy.”
I said, “Yes he definitely is a little sweetheart.”
She said, “That’s because he’s had good parenting.”
I just smiled because I was frustrated and wished I could make her see what keeping Lee away from this child is doing to all of us. Lee is part of the reason that our son is such a good boy. The decisions Lee has made to support me contribute to how our son is turning out. Lee is part of this child’s “good parenting”.
I think it was good that she saw him. She had the opportunity to put a face to the name.
Even though it didn’t change her mind, maybe his image will pop into her head the next time she’s thinking about my husband. Maybe God can use my son’s testimony of being a servant and a good boy in her life somehow.
Because yes, in spite of all this junk, our son is a precious, compassionate, servant and I am so thankful to God for allowing me to be his mom.
December 16th, 2008 at 11:04 am
Praying that God will use your son’s sweet precious face to pierce her heart. Oh, how I pray that God will use your family to touch her and draw her closer to Himself. Also praying that your family would be reunited and restored, better and stronger than ever!!
Thank you for posting about this. It’s an honor to come alongside you in prayer!!
December 16th, 2008 at 11:15 am
YEA!!! That has to have an impact on her heart. It was nice for her to say that….she could have just kept it herself ….speaking the words will help her to remember….That meeting was NO ACCIDENT!!
God is good….Thank you for sharing that with us. I hope when she finally decides Lee can see James (and she will) she will remember the first time she met James.
December 16th, 2008 at 11:19 am
You said exactly what I was thinking. I think it was good for his parole officer to see James. Hopefully she will now associate a little boy’s face and a family that belongs together when she’s thinking about Lee and to know that, yes, James is raised with good and loving parents. Continuing to pray on this.
December 16th, 2008 at 11:22 am
I’ve been wondering about that–do they consider when making these decisions that they are taking a father away from a family and out of his child’s life? We as a society are suffering the devastating consequences of children growing up fatherless.
I’m very impressed with your continued love and support for Lee. I’m writing a blog post–unfortunately on the back burner at the moment–that was partially inspired by your example; I’m trying to express some thoughts percolating through my mind about the importance of love and our need to have courage to love. I’ll let you know when it gets posted!
December 16th, 2008 at 12:58 pm
I continue to pray that she will have wisdom and discernment and that her heart would be softened to the Lord’s leading and his will regarding Lee.
December 16th, 2008 at 2:07 pm
It sounds like a God-ordained moment for her to meet James, Lizzie – one that I hope you will soon look back on as a turning point in her decisions regarding Lee’s freedom. (((Hugs)))
December 16th, 2008 at 2:20 pm
Hopefully that meeting wasn’t an accident, but instead was part of God’s plan in all this. I’m still praying.
December 16th, 2008 at 3:57 pm
An excellent opportunity, indeed. And while Lee is most assuredly a part of James’ rearing, don’t be hesitant to accept the compliment on your own good parenting.
December 17th, 2008 at 1:42 am
I think that this can only be good!
December 17th, 2008 at 11:55 am
I’m glad she got to meet him and see what a great little boy he is.
December 17th, 2008 at 12:56 pm
This is a prayer request. The story is to long to tell but I met a woman from another state 2 years ago at a University football game. She shared her story with me. She is a teacher and her husband was going to be trial for committing a white collar crime. They have been married 30 plus years and never been apart. That is how I found Lizzie’s site…I was looking for support for her. Well today he was sentenced to 57 months in prison and 3 years probation. Please pray for her. She loves the Lord and is trusting Him but the pain and hurt are very real. Thank you
December 31st, 2008 at 2:51 pm
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