People are angry with Lee because we don’t know Lee. We know and love you and James. And what rule Lee broke doesn’t really matter. That he broke your heart again just a tiny bit, that he smooshed up your hope again just a tiny bit is what matters to us.

Think of your blogging friends as that long distance friend who would smack him one and tell him to wise up if we were closer.

I mentioned in a previous comment that I would have been angry, too. But I also mentioned that I would have been so proud of Lee for telling the truth when it was hard. I’m still thinking that.

The two of you have come so far, farther, I think, than you realize. Because regardless of what Lee’s initial crime was and regardless of what rule he broke, he chose to do the right thing. He chose to tell the truth, knowing the consequences.

That’s what I’m busy teaching my kids to do. That’s what I’m busy trying to live for them to see. We all make mistakes, right? The good is in how we go about making them right.

A new year approaches. Maybe the hopes you had this time last year have not been realised- but I bet lots of little ones have been, and look at you- standing tall, loving God and your son and facing each day in the strength and grace of our Saviour- a whole nother year accomplished through these trials- and that grace will never waver or fail.

You have every right to be put out with him, but you guys have come so far, and I’m so proud of you. You are one of the strongest women I know. HUGS from H&R!

I’ve been keeping up and worrying for you all and I’ll be praying. Sending you many hugs. The ladies above have said wise words – keep going, one breath at a time even. I know that none of us can throw the first stone, so to speak, and it is our duty as sisters (and brothers) in Christ to love, support, and encourage you all, including Lee, through all of this. I keep hoping and praying that the probation officer seeing your son in person that day will have an effect on her… Hugs, Tara

I will pray that she releases him soon!

Hugs,
Kat

Still praying for you and James. I know all about the anger and where it springs from. Be strong and of good courage, don’t be afraid or be dismayed for the Lord your God is with you. I am not sure why all of this is happening, but know that the Lord knows exactly what type of chastening each person needs in order to remove impurities. In an effort to be the best helpmeet you can be and to endure with your husband during this trial and chastening is your calling as his wife. It doesn’t mean it doesn’t really suck, it just means that if you keep the goal of having both of your lives honor and glorify God, it will all be worth it in the end. Keep your eye on the prize and don’t look back on the part of the race you have already run!

Love ya!
Me

I agree with Mrs D. that probation officer just makes me wanna cringe her neck. lol. but I think it’s best if I let God deal with her. more effective!

what energy you do have you have to pour into james…so likely frustration i likely more true, confusion i am sure..and you know what, not a darn bit of it does anyone any good…

do you LOVE him….only you can answer that…he will always be james dad so that will not change..as much as some might say leave him forget about him…that will never happen, you will never forget him, my mother never did after 30 years of seperation..(seperation was due to other issues, just as tragic but not the same)

so take today as today…tommorrow is a gift, it’s never promised…and well decisions are to be made, you apparently have time to make them…

i just hope Lee doesnt give up…i believe (without any information ..lol just my opinion for whatever that is worth) he likely self sabotaged himself…even unconciously…and i’m sure he’s in the dumps pretty bad….i’m sure you are not in the mood to lift his spirits at the moment, do what you can…do what you feel you can..

Lee’s current faux pas unfortunately played right into his parole officer’s opinion of him…(which i’m guessing is the stereotype of prisoner fathers being useless and kids better off without them) and that is gonna be nearly impossible to change her opinion of him now…but with prayer anything happen..and goodness knows we’re all praying…. so that’s my take, im sure none of this is my business…but there it is anyhow…we love you and pray for you and hope for strength in 2009…and grace, you seem to have a huge amount of grace..keep it up..

Celina in Canada…

ps i loved mrs d’s comment

Love ya!