Dress Code

by adustyframe ~ June 6th, 2009

Did you know the prison has a dress code for visitors?

I find it amusing that the prison of all places wants people to dress modestly yet women wear  awful things to church!

I’m reviewing the rules for visiting Lee. I should be able to visit him on Monday. The prison he’s in is closer to my brother’s house than mine.

Here is the dress code. It’s obvious why some of these are on the list but I truly do shake my head to think that some of this is inappropriate for the prison but I’ve seen it at church.

The following is a list of attire that is inappropriate for visitors and guests.

1. Transparent/translucent clothing

2. Shorts shorter than fingertip length. Visitor must stand naturally with arms straight down the side of the body with fingers extended.

3. Skirts or dress slits shorter than fingertip length plus three inches with the hands down at the side.

4. Strapless, tube, or halter tops or dresses

5. Dresses that have straps that tie at the top

6. Tops which expose the midriff area (no bare skin at the belt line)

7. Spandex or spandex-like and lycra or lycra-like pants (nothing tight and stretchy)

8. Underwear worn outside of the clothing

9. Clothing with revealing holes or slits above fingertip level with your hands down at your side.

10. Clothing or accessories with obscene or profane writings, images, photos, and any clothing advertising alcohol.

11. Bib overalls are not allowed

12. No gang related clothing, shoes, logos, or insignia

13. Hats/headgear are not allowed


8 Thoughts Shared to Dress Code

  1. Patricia (Pollywog Creek)

    Oh…I so agree with you. It is embarrassing sometimes to be in church with the way some of the women/teenagers dress. I’m embarrassed for them, for the men who see them, and especially the pastor who has to see them from where he speaks. The pastor has addressed the issue in sermons more than once, but some women just don’t get it, I guess.

    In reality, we shouldn’t dress any more revealing outside of church than we do inside church. Causing our brothers in Christ to stumble is a sin no matter where we are.

    I hope you are enjoying your visit with you brother and that you have a wonderful visit with Lee on Monday. (((Hugs)))

  2. Marie


    I’ve seen pretty much everything mentioned on that list in the courtroom – both on defendants and their significant others. One time, the bailiff (who happened to be sitting next to me) mumbled, “Dontcha think if yer in the courtroom you’d tuck in yer t-shirt?” It doesn’t surprise me at all that the law enforcement peeps decided to institute a dress code.

    BUT, to address your original point, I also see some of that in church (esp. in the summer), and it’s a pet peeve of mine. Going to church in flip-flops and shorts? That’s how I might go to the beach, but in an air-conditioned church (full grown adults?) That bugs me, b/c it shows such a lack of respect. People wouldn’t dream of going to work that way, but somehow it’s appropriate for church? We deliberately dress up and dress our kids up on Sunday, as much to set an example as anything.

  3. Pam

    Dear Lizzie….I hope you have a nice visit with Lee. My step-daughter taught at an inner-city school a few years ago and believe it or not the “TEACHERS” had to be given a very similar list!!! Now my grandchildren attend a small public school that has a very….very strict dress code. I am thankful and so are they. God Bless Lizzie…..enjoy your time with your husband and family. Pa, South Bend

  4. Jen B

    Very interesting. Thanks for sharing.

  5. MamaHen

    We had to start sitting in the front rows of the church because the women’s clothes were so distracting. My boys are only 11 an 9, but I think womens’ clothes should have to be the last thing they should have to deal with at church.

    I also recongnize though that church is for everyone and so it can be a hard line (if there should even be a line at all). Some of it is really just not knowing what is appropriate in different situations, but some of it I have to wonder about!

  6. Barbara H.

    I get everything except the hats. Wonder why they’re on the list? Maybe because people could conceal things in them? Seems like that would be easy enough to check.

    As the mom of 3 boys, I agree with the above commenter that clothes at church should be the last things boys have to be concerned about. I think we all understand when a visitor comes who might not be saved or might not have been taught, but when it’s teen girls from solid, established church families, it is a sore spot.

  7. deputyheadmistress

    The fingertip length rule amuses us. One of my daughters has very short arms. Fingertip length would be about where her underwear is.

  8. Susanna

    Gosh Lizzie— you are gonna have to buy a whole new wardrobe before you can go visit! 🙂 😉 🙂

    Seriously though, I have alwasy attended churches where you dress modestly but I am seeing certain dress in other places that is plain wrong for a believer- I agree wiht teh shorts and flip flops/respect comment, but a lot of it is also linked to the (seemingly forgotten) notion of modesty

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