Comments on: Respect

By: Carolyn

Carolyn — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 14:18:21 +0000

I just wanted to encourage you by saying how much I appreciate the fact that you have been honoring and respectful to your husband in a very hard situation! I love that about your blog! God bless and I keep praying for you even though I don’t comment often.

Thank you!

By: Katherine

Katherine — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 10:57:29 +0000

My comment was referring to the comment made by “Kara”–I think she took (what she thought was) an opportunity to give her opinion about your situation. She ignored the point you were making, but used one word from your post (respect) to make her “point”. And then, in your response, you were still trying to make your original point… I read it as a miscommunication.

By: Jacque

Jacque — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 03:44:11 +0000

Hey there Lizzie~
You are spot on in what you are saying. No matter what, we are called to behave in a Biblical way, whether we are talking about husbands, wives, or even other Believers.
I hear (read about) the refute all the time:”Well, what about him?” or “Well, they are treating you badly,” and it’s true sometimes.

However, when friends or spouses, our children, anyone treats us badly, it forces us to make a decision of whether we are truly going to follow the Word of God or not, regardless of the other person’s behaviour. We are to not retaliate, but let God deal with hearts. THIS is the part of God’s work in our lives.

It is the same way with our spouses. We might know what is right for the him to do- even Biblically, but the only thing we can do is to do what God has told us is right for us to do.

Yeshua did not return evil for evil. We are not to endanger ourselves or our children, but sometimes, disrespect to ourselves is a lesser burden than to sin and outright disobey what we know to do in the Word.

I definitely needed to read this today, and I will be reading the link in whole.

Thank you, and you are blessed and in obedience to His Word, and that is an honouring place to be. May He bless you and Lee and James abundantly for this, and may Lee walk in His Word, unwaveringly, led by the holy Spirit!!

(((HUGS)))

Good thoughts! Thank you!
The thing is we always have the choice. We can obey God or we can agree with everyone else that the person doesn’t deserve it.

I know that obeying God is a much better path.

By: LeftCoastOnlooker

LeftCoastOnlooker — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 23:13:24 +0000

I’m on my way over to listen to this from Nancy Demoss — while I’m there, I’ll check on “30 day husband encouragement challenge ” that Susanna mentioned — what do you know about it?
It sounds like something I need

It’s pretty good:)
((hugs))

By: Barbara H.

Barbara H. — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 20:12:21 +0000

I agree, Lizzie, being respectful isn’t based on his actions or performance — it’s based on obeying God. All of those instructions — husbands, love your wives, wives, submit to your husbands, children obey your parents — aren’t conditional.

You’re right. I’m not saying it’s easy! But God gives the strength and rewards obedience.

By: Susanna

Susanna — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 19:16:01 +0000

Hello Lizzie

Thank you for sharing that.A while ago I took the 30 day husband encouragement challenge run by Nancy…it was a real reminder of how easy it is to fall into bad habits re our husbands. To love and to respect are a choice- a determination, not based purely on feeling as you rightly said. Sorry have not been around much….a few things going on here right now.

Thanks for stopping by:). I need to review that challenge.

By: katrina

katrina — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 18:39:01 +0000

I just love it when I find something better said than I ever could say it! Glad God brought this across your path. Have a great day!

How is James likeing camp? No frantic calls to come and pick him up? =)

Nope no calls;)

By: Sisterlisa

Sisterlisa — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 16:04:04 +0000

Hi Lizzie.

I think people tend to forget that if we all got what we deserved, where we’d be. If it were not for grace, we would be in a very bad place.

We live in a physical world surrounded by spiritual battles. No Believer is better in God’s eyes than another. We are all equal in Christ.

If it were not for grace….. definitely something to ponder.

By: Liza's Eyeview

Liza's Eyeview — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 15:48:27 +0000

P.S. Just to clarify, I think you are doing the right thing of “not taking bad” about your husband on your blog. God bless you and may blessings be poured upon you for being so faithful.

Thank you:)

By: Liza's Eyeview

Liza's Eyeview — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 15:47:05 +0000

Hi Lizzie,

I haven’t visited for a while (busy being a working mom) but today I stopped by via your tweet on this topic respect.

I watched Dr. Eggerich’s video on Love and Respect, and while I agree most of what he said, there’s a part of me that says he is a bit biased. I am a pleaser and I very respectful, and I am very submissive; and yet there’s a little bit in me that says Dr. Eggerich need to remind the husbands more how to be respectful also of their wives. Anyway, that’s just my 2 cents.

Hugs to you. I will go bach and re-read some of your posts to catch up.

Aloha,
Liza
http://www.amauiblog.com

Well, what is the Biblical issue here? Not what we feel;).
Biblically, husbands are required to love their wives not respect them. Obviously, if he is loving us as he should the respect will be there. But he is required to love even if his wife isn’t lovable.

The Bible calls us to respect whether or not he respects us.
We can’t use what our husband does or does not do as an excuse to sin.

Also, this radio program is for women. I haven’t read everything he’s taught, but I’m sure he teaches the men their Biblical responsibility as well.