by adustyframe ~ December 14th, 2009

On Sunday afternoon, my group of girls came over for a little Christmas/goodbye get together.

These girls are my friends who have incarcerated husbands (or formerly incarcerated husbands).

The lady who started our group lives about  5 hours away. We always get together when Lisa comes to visit her husband. He’s getting out tomorrow which is exciting for them, but a little sad for us.

My friend Gigi moved away last spring when her husband was released. They live just over an hour away, but it’s hard for Gigi to get here.

Last night, we visited and ate snacks and tried to not think about this being the last time we’d see each other. Some of us will still visit, but Lisa lives so far away that our “group” won’t be the same again.

When it was time to go, we sat around my living room to pray. Lisa asked if anyone had any requests.

I said, “We’re praying that James isn’t getting sick. Also, that somehow things will change and we can be a family.”

One of the ladies said, “We can pray for a Christmas miracle.”

I sat there with no faith thinking  that Christmas is too close to pray for a miracle. You know it’s been years  since I  allowed myself to “get my hopes up”.  Getting my hopes up has always led to having them dashed and in some ways, I want to protect myself.

In other ways, it’s a lack of faith.
I said, “You know, I don’t even feel like it’s worth hoping for that.” I choked up and sat there surrounded by friends who truly understand the pain and frustration because they’re living it too.

I had difficulty finishing but I said, “and I hate feeling like this.”

Lisa began to pray immediately. She thanked God that we can hope in him. She asked him to increase our faith. She asked the Lord to give each of us strength to hold on and wait on him.

As she prayed, I thanked the Lord for godly friends who are able to hold me up when I falter.

Her prayer was such an encouragement and even a rebuke. Don’t give up hope! Don’t give up faith! Don’t quit believing that God can do anything he chooses.

As she prayed, I heard sniffles from all around the room.

Previously, my home had been full of laughter and happy sounds. Instantly, when we acknowledged the difficulties the tears flowed.

That’s how this journey is. We can have wonderful day and lots of fun, but when we acknowledge the pain, it pours out faster than we can contain it.

One prayed, “Thank you God for sending me these friends when I needed them most.”

I echo that thank you. God set me up with a group of Christian friends who know exactly what I’m dealing with. That is an amazing blessing that only God could arrange.

I’m going to miss them.


8 Thoughts Shared to Friends

  1. TransitionGirl

    amen to a good grp of friends who understand the fears and struggles and lift you up to the Lord. truly a blessing.

  2. Pam

    WOW….what a blessing to have friends that you can
    be open and honest with who will not just offer empathy
    but who are eager to interscede for you…..I too continue
    to pray that the three of you will be reunited…..under one roof…..just as you are already… HIS love…..God Bless
    Pam, South Bend

  3. Christy

    What a gift … what wonderful friends. Thank you for sharing your intimate thoughts, pain, and growth on your journey. You are beautiful and loved.

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  5. katrina

    My heart goes out to you and your family! I’m so glad you were able to get together with friends and share. I’m sorry you won’t be able to get together with all of them any more. It’s a happy reason, but sad too. Know you are in my thoughts and prayers often.

  6. The NON-Superwoman

    Friends are indeed a gift.

  7. Marie

    This brought tears to my eyes, although I’m glad you have had some friends going through the same thing to support you. I pray you have a nice Christmas. Are you going to visit with relatives?

    Thank you! Just my in laws this year.

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