by adustyframe ~ December 29th, 2009

I mentioned yesterday that we enjoyed our quiet Christmas.

We definitely did.

Thursday, Lee and I spent some time together. Friday it was just James and I. I just didn’t think about Lee not being home.

This is the first Christmas he’s been “out” in 4 years I think. So that was a wonderful bonus all in itself.

He spent Christmas day at his mom’s with his mom and dad and a brother. Later he went to the home of another brother. He was in good spirits and I was thankful for that.

I asked some of you to pray for him on Christmas, just because of the loneliness. Thank you!

On Saturday, James played at his aunt’s house with his cousin. Lee finished up some of the trim in the bathroom (I promise photos will be posted soon.)

Then we went and got a pizza and Starbucks–with a gift card from a friend. We came home to eat the pizza and we played a game.

His sister called to say she was bringing James home in 10 minutes. So, Lee put on his coat, gave me a kiss, and headed out the door.

I stood by the porch door as he left and watched him walk down the snowy sidewalk. As he walked away, I thought of our dating days when he had to leave at night.

But we’re not dating now. We’ve been married for a long while and I was sad to watch him leave.

I miss him so much more now than I ever did when we were dating.

We count our blessings. We thank God for what we do have.

But sometimes it  gets lonely.

I can’t wait for the day when we’re all 3 home together.

I can’t wait for the day when no one has to walk down the sidewalk away from  home.


5 Thoughts Shared to Christmas

  1. Barbara H.

    Trusting that day will come….

  2. Pam

    Lizzie I think all of us who pray for you feel your pain…..and we
    will REJOICE when you are all reunited…..soon….very very soon.
    God Bless, Pam, South Bend

  3. kim

    Merry Christmas to you and your family, Lizzie. I am sorry that you are still not able to be together as a family, but sounds like you all had lots of love to share. I will pray that James gets to spend time with his Dad soon. Happy New Year – I hope 2010 sees all your wishes come true.

  4. Trish

    I’ve followed your blog for a long while now, but I think this is my first comment. You have been an inspiration to me through your devotion to your husband. When I feel like my marriage is less than it should be because of a less than perfect spouse (whose isn’t?) I think of you and how you unconditionally love your husband. God will bless you for that!

    This portion of my comment may be deleted if you wish. I have a question that may be too personal. I understand if you don’t want to share everything. Also, if you’d like to email me if you choose to answer, that’s ok, too. Why is your husband not allowed to be around your son? It seems to me that the “system” would work better to put father and son back together, especially if he’s out. Just my opinion and please feel free to delete this. Also, if you don’t mind another personal question, how much longer until your husband is completely free? I hope I haven’t crossed a boundary here and please know that whether you answer or not, I will still be praying for you and enjoying your blog! 😉

    First of all, thank you for taking time to comment.I love when “lurkers” stick around and become friends!
    I so appreciate your prayers for us.

    When all this started my husband had approved child care where he’d take care of James while I was at work.
    One day a parole officer said she didn’t want him to do that and so it was changed.
    We’ve appealed and complained and no one will change it back.
    It’s really a big mess and we don’t know what to do because we’ve exhausted the appeals process.
    We’ve done everything we’ve been asked to do and nothing changes.
    Awhile ago, I shared that his current parole officer said she gives him that rule because it hurts.

    We both know that Lee is on probation and it shouldn’t be easy. It’s all consequences of his choices and we’re stuck with it until he’s done with probation or someone changes their mind. He will be done with probation in May 2011.
    I’m praying that 2010 can be a year of huge changes for our family in this regard.

    You didn’t cross a line by asking. I know it’s really hard to understand because we don’t understand either. Our pastor has been along for this entire ride and says he can’t figure out what’s going on or what she hopes to accomplish by doing this.

    We’re praying this next year flies right by and then we’ll be almost “home free”.

  5. Trish

    “Awhile ago, I shared that his current parole officer said she gives him that rule because it hurts.”

    I must have missed this, and I must say, that is ridiculous! There is something wrong when punishment extends to an innocent child. And that’s what happened here to keep father and son apart.

    Thank you for taking the time to answer my questions and I will continue to pray for you and your precious family!

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