Another Call

by adustyframe ~ June 29th, 2010

Last week, James thought about the things he wanted to tell his Dad when he called. All week he talked about what he’d say and he practiced a piece on the piano.

The time for the call came and the phone didn’t ring.

I felt sick. I second guessed myself for telling James he could talk to Dad that day.

Finally the phone rang and it was a different parole officer. He said there was some sort of  error or misunderstanding and Lee’s parole officer wasn’t in the office to facilitate the call.  At least he called to tell us, but oh how sick I felt.

James was very upset but we talked about how people make mistakes and how I would find out what happened.

What happened was that Lee waited in the office for nearly an hour and was finally told that his parole officer just left the building.


I called the parole officer and left him a message. I was very calm and tried to be pleasant. I let him know that whatever happens to my husband or myself is one thing. We’re adults and we can deal with it but in no way will they do this to my son again.

I told him how James thought about what to say all week long and how we hurried home to take the call. I reminded him that this was a promise and that something better be done to cement these appointments because missing the call crushed my son.

He called back a few hours later and apologized. I don’t exactly buy his story about what happened however, he did apologize and offered to apologize to James. James didn’t want to talk to him. He said, “I don’t even know him!”

I appreciated his apology and offer to apologize to James. I told him so and thanked him for calling. He set up a special time for Lee to pop in and call James and offered to give them a second call this week.

He said, “These calls are so important for Lee too.”

Yes, they are.

So today Lee got to call and I’ll tell you about that later….


6 Thoughts Shared to Another Call

  1. Lisa

    I know it hurt, but at least he didn’t get all mad at you for calling about it. And he did apologize and offer to apologize to James and did recognize that Lee really values this. I’d say that’s overall a good lesson for James–people can mess up, it does hurt folks, but they can sincerely try to make it up. STill, as a Mom, my heart aches for you that day! it couldn’t have been pleasant.

  2. Christy

    That makes me cry. Life is tough. Glad he apologized. You handled it beautifully with James and the parole officer.

  3. Revka Stearns

    So sorry to hear this. I know people make mistakes, but, honestly, you’d think they would realize that more than Lee is involved.

    I’m glad you took the time to call and leave a message, and I hope that this will not happen again.

    All in all, I’m so thankful that calls CAN be made now.

  4. Barbara H.

    I am so glad you kindly took a stand and let him know how that kind of careless oversight can hurt. James is having to learn early on how to be a little trooper, but it will stand him in good stead later on in life. I am so glad Lee did get to finally call.

  5. Sally

    At first this made me very angry & sad. It just should never have happened. I’m glad you called the PO back. I’m also so very proud of you that you were calm and pleasant. Hugs to each of you.

  6. Ame

    good for you! don’t mess with my babies! my husband says i’m very calm and almost passive … till someone messes w/my babies – he says then i turn into a completely different woman. yep, he’s right. don’t mess w/my babies.

    i hope this parole officer got that message loud and clear and doesn’t forget it.

    unfortunately, i learned early on not to tell my girls things. SOOO many people have stood them up and left them hanging, and they’ve cried soooooo many tears over it. a few months ago i thought this one thing would really be a go, and i told my girls. then the person backed out at the last minute. they cried and cried. made me so mad.

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