Watching Our Words

by adustyframe ~ December 16th, 2010

Proverbs 10:32  The lips of the righteous know what is acceptable…

I read this verse many years ago and it’s convicting to me every time I read it. Those of us who know the Lord know when we aren’t using words to edify and bless don’t we?

In my life there are some people who joke about not having the gift of mercy. They also say things harshly or bluntly and then say, “That’s how I am.” or “Jesus threw the money changers out of the temple. He wasn’t gentle!”

I don’t understand that kind of thought process and my gift does happen to be mercy so I’m on the opposite end of the spectrum on this issue.

Jesus was merciful even though he was direct. Our goal is to be Christlike so even if mercy isn’t a gift, I’m pretty sure we should be working on it. I have to work on being more direct and willing to confront if I’m going to be Christlike. We don’t get a pass just because it’s “not our gift”.

I truly believe that we must speak the truth. My blunt friends are correct when they say that. It isn’t loving to not confront sin issues, but I think our delivery could always be better right?

My mother drilled into us to think before we speak and to pray before we speak. I often want to just say whatever I’m thinking but I’ve learned that doesn’t always yield the best results. It also doesn’t always yield the most Godly results. Praying before confronting–or spouting off (because many blunt people spout and then try to hide behind the “confronting” label.)

So many times I’ve prayed about an issue and God gave me beautiful words to say that I would have never thought of on my own. Seeking His wisdom on our speech is a very important piece of the puzzle.

We can be loving and merciful and speak the truth. God’s truth is what convicts–not our blunt or brutal words.

If you pray and God leads you to be blunt and direct then you should definitely do so. God can use different means in different hearts to achieve his purposes. The key is to pray and search Scripture before saying everything that’s on our minds.

Also the goal of sharing truth or confronting isn’t to crush people and then laugh about how direct you are. The goal should be to bring people to Christ and restore their heart or enhance their relationship with Christ. It’s not at all about how rough we can be with people.

I found this in my Bible this morning. It’s a note I wrote to myself because even though I am gifted with mercy, I don’t always speak the right words. I believe I got it from a sermon but I don’t even know where!

When we speak we should search our hearts and our motivations.

Is what we’re about to say—



*With Mercy

*Sown in peace


*Without hypocrisy

Such good things to think of before we say what’s on our mind.

James 3:17

But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy.


3 Thoughts Shared to Watching Our Words

  1. Sally Martin

    Excellent blog and very well said.

  2. Barbara H.

    Amen, Lizzie. I’ve never understood how people who love to express themselves like this miss the passages about meekness and letting our words be seasoned with grace.

  3. Janet

    Amen, Lizzie. The bluntest people are the ones who hurt me the most. They do not help me at all. They turn me off.

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