This Touched Me

by adustyframe ~ January 14th, 2012

If you’ve peeked at my Pinterest boards you may have seen that I happen to really like a certain football team….


Several weeks ago, before the game, I saw this clip on the pre-game show. Even if you don’t love football, please watch it for me–it’s back story for the rest of the post.


Watching it I was struck with something. A homeless boy who’s mom was having trouble getting it together was loved and cared for by others.

A man who coached him and mentored him and treated him like he was normal.

I started crying….and then James and Lee did their, “Oh NO! Mom’s crying again.” thing.

The reason it touched me is because I’m a mom of a kid who had a lot to deal with. No, we weren’t homeless, but the stigma of an incarcerated parent is a pretty hard thing to live under. Especially, when you live in a conservative, Christian, homeschooling “bubble”.

What struck me is that a couple people reaching out to him and treating him with the love and respect they would treat any other child made a massive difference in his life.

How often do we look down our noses or turn our hearts away from hurting people thinking either they aren’t worth our time or that we can’t do enough to change their lives so we do nothing? What about the children of those people?

I know that every child of a prisoner or homeless mom won’t turn out so great as James Jones, but you know what? It’s not our place to decide.

God calls us to love people and treat them with honor because they are made in His image. The Bible doesn’t say to care about people who are just like us or who don’t have shadows over their lives.

I just can’t get over the fact that a couple people treating him normal made such a huge impact on him. Small things in a way really. No one bought his mom a house or gave them massive amounts of money. They just spent time with him and treated him like they would treat everyone else.

Sadly, I’ve seen this in our situation. A lot of people did not treat us like we were “normal” and it was obvious. Maybe it wasn’t on purpose–that’s what I try to believe. Thankfully, a few people loved my son and treated him like he was important and special. My brother, the husband of a friend, and Lee’s parents. (If I think of a couple more people I will add them, but honestly it was very few…).

On the clip James Jones says, “When you live like that you just need to feel like a normal kid. You need to feel like people care about you.” Try to remember that when you interact with children less fortunate than you are. They just want to be treated like people care about them.

I love that he also said this, “If I speak to 20 kids and 2 kids change their lives, I’m good with that.”

I don’t know if James Jones claims to be a believer and I’m not just being a “crazy fan”, I just respect that he remembers where he came from and that he chooses to be a difference in children’s lives. That’s a great example for all of us.


6 Thoughts Shared to This Touched Me

  1. Stefanie

    Wonderful and encouraging. I’m sorry to hear that your family isn’t being treated as it should all the time.

    Hmmm… I’m not sure that’s what I was saying (and that part of our lives is in the past). Just that only very few stand out as actually treating my son like he was important and cared about.

  2. Jennifer

    Isn’t that what everyone wants- to be treated like someone cares.

  3. Kym

    Very touching! Sometimes it really is seemingly “little things” that make an impact on children.

  4. Susanna

    Thank you for this important reminder. Very often we can do very little to help but that ‘little’ may be what makes the difference if done with love and care x

  5. Janet

    This is so touching. It reminds me of the message in Courageous–reach out to those who need fathering if they have no one. Thank you for sharing, Lizzie.

  6. Jesse

    It is true that knowing you are truly cared about sometimes makes all the difference!

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