by adustyframe ~ May 7th, 2013

Last week at one of James’ ball games, a guy we kind of (sort of) know came up to Lee.

“So, I heard you got yourself in trouble.” He proceeded to try to get every detail out of Lee. Lee was upfront with him and answered all his questions.

I asked why he let that man make him rehash it all. He said, “It doesn’t matter what people say or think. God knows the truth. I figured if I didn’t answer him he wouldn’t leave me alone.”

I felt badly for Lee. Rehashing everything wasn’t on his agenda for the day. Also, this person isn’t a close friend or even close acquaintance. He was just being pushy.

Now, on the other hand, it was Lee’s fault he was in trouble and I know that.

I said to Lee “Did you remind him you paid for this and that it’s already years in the past?” He just shrugged his shoulders.

I’ve said before that prison is always going to be a shadow in our past and that we can never get away from the fact that yes Lee made those choices.

Still often–and especially on a pretty spring day–I’d like to pretend it never happened.


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  1. Ame

    yesterday my girls and i were talking about the fantasy of being able to erase certain brain cell memories. my girls have been so hurt by their dad.

    i think there will always be things we want to escape … how we handle that becomes important. kudos to your husband. it’s easier to deal with truth than to hide it. otoh, some things are just nobody’s business. but i’m guessing that guy didn’t expect Lee to be such a straight-shooter.

    when i was going thru my sexual abuse recovery group, a woman confided in me that she was once sexually abused by a relative when she was young. “It makes me angry that one incident has such a huge impact on my life!” she kept trying to bury it and not deal with it. she confessed it impacted her marriage, too. she never brought it up again, and we lost touch over the years. that group was one of the most extremely intense, gut-wrenching things i’ve ever gone thru, but it was also one of the most healing. i’m glad i did it, and i hope i never need it again. sometimes, though, i wish i had a dad who was kind and good and loved me properly and appropriately – especially when friends’ dads are so good to them. not only did my dad take away precious things from me, he also stole from me what he did not give me – security, love, encouragement, etc.

    you’re doing very well, my friend. this is really tough stuff. continue to stand by your man … that will speak volumes more than any words ever can to the world around you.

  2. Robin in New Jersey


    Tell Lee I said thank you. Sometimes telling the truth and being straight with people is hard and it hurts, but it’s also a testimony to what the Lord has done in a person’s life. I totally understand where you are coming from though.

  3. celina

    i’d be more worried if Lee glossed over it, denied it…tried to hide it. He did wrong, he repents for it..he “paid” for it…and now you are all rebuilding…but I’m proud he was able to be up front…you don’t want him to forget and gloss over it. You want it to be in his mind when he makes decisions…to make the right ones.

    so WAY TO GO LEE!!!! let him be a testimony that there is still a FUTURE after bad choices..and it can be a positive one.

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