When Your Friend Hurts

by adustyframe ~ October 11th, 2013

I’ve heard a few prayer requests from hurting people lately and they say things like, “I don’t want to whine.” It makes me sad that they feel they’re whining by asking for prayer support.

It made me think of the times when I was so burdened and weighed down by what I was living through and wasn’t able to always be upbeat.

If your friend is hurting, take time to listen. Ask them how you can pray and really meant it–listen when they share. Then pray with them, for them, about them!

If you think of a Bible verse to share please do! Write it in an email or on a pretty piece of paper.

When you’re listening, pray about what you should say. Don’t give advice or instructions unless you know they’re really ready and able to hear that. Also, don’t give advice without praying about it first.

Once during all our mess, I shared some things with a friend and she was very quiet. I said, “I’m sorry am I bothering you by sharing this?” She said, “Well, you’re not my most positive friend.”  YIKES~I don’t think she meant to hurt my feelings or make me feel like I shouldn’t share with her, but that’s definitely what happened.

Often when people are under heavy burdens, they just can’t be super positive. Make sure you don’t add to their burdens by expecting them to be happy all the time.

Any thoughts you have on friends dealing with trials?


4 Thoughts Shared to When Your Friend Hurts

  1. Barbara H.

    Great advice, Lizzie. Years ago I heard someone give a prayer request that so-and-so found out he had cancer and his wife wasn’t taking it very well. That has bothered me ever since – we don’t need to judge how people take bad news, we need to come alongside and encourage and support them.

  2. Pam

    Listen….listen….listen….if you say you’ll pray….pray…..
    Sometimes I feel that if I ask for prayer I’m not trusting
    Listening to someone ….letting them be completely honest without trying to “fix” their pain is a great comfort.
    I’ve always appreciated your honesty Lizzie …..it helps others to realize they don’t have to be perfect

  3. Janet

    One of the most hurtful things I’ve ever heard about me was when someone said “Janet is always so negative”. I was going through a bad marriage and eventually a divorce, when I’ve heard this same person freaking out about hair and nails.:(

    Last week I really needed some good friends to hold me up–they listened, they infused me with the Word of God and God’s love, and they prayed for me. They didn’t judge. They loved me. That’s what I needed.

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