That’s Hard

by adustyframe ~ December 3rd, 2013

Lee’s work schedule makes it nearly impossible for us to plan things–especially social events.

At first that really bothered me because I have trouble being flexible! We’re getting used to it and while I don’t like it, at least I’m figuring out how to deal with it. Often, I just tell people that we’re a “maybe” or I’m a “maybe” depending on whether or not he’s home to stay with the boys.

I was in a conversation recently about this and a certain Christmas event and the person said, “Oh that’s so hard.”

I’ve been known to be a “Pollyanna” before so maybe my brain doesn’t work quite right but that isn’t hard, it’s just an annoyance.

Hard is single parenting.

Hard is sitting in the prison visiting room on your anniversary.

Hard is having your son left out of father son events at church because no one took time to include  him.

Hard is having your little boy cry himself to sleep after Father’s day at church because his mommy didn’t realize that Sunday School was going to be all about Dad’s the whole time.

Hard is not having enough money to pay the bills and having to struggle to work as much as possible to make up for the shortfall and trust God without panicking.

Hard is sitting in court with your heart in your throat waiting for a judge to make a decision that affects your life.

Hard is being worried when you see a police car in front of your house.

There’s more hard but I think I’ll stop here…

I know there are different levels of “hard” but honestly having to re-arrange or decline social events doesn’t even pop up on my  “hard” radar.


3 Thoughts Shared to That’s Hard

  1. judith

    As always, you bring a good perspective to the conversation. I haven’t quite learned how to deal with our inability to plan social events, due to the farming schedule. On more than one occasion, I’ve been on the phone with a doctor’s office and the receptionist asks, “When would you like to schedule an appointment?” and I’ve answered, “On a rainy day!” That’s not possible to know, of course. Same with inviting friends for dinner or saying, “Yes” to an invite. Glad your life isn’t “hard” now; no doubt challenging, but, like you said, not hard.

  2. Sharlene

    It might help me to make of list of things that are really hard, so that we can handle the small things better. I tend to let the minor things get too big.

  3. Ame

    totally get it.


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