I’m Happy For You (Sort of….Not Really) ~Kay Wills Wyma ~Book Review

by adustyframe ~ May 5th, 2015


About the book:

Facebook in 2013 reports 1.23 billion monthly active users. Berlin’s Humbolt University research, meanwhile, shows how many of those users run into “envy, leaving them feeling lonely, frustrated or angry.”

Take a deep breath and slowly set down that smartphone, says Kay Wills Wyma, author of the new I’m Happy for You (Sort Of . . . Not Really): Finding Contentment in a Culture of Comparison (WaterBrook Press, May 5, 2015).

When virtually every moment is spun into an online milestone, cropped and filtered to perfection, it’s easy to fall headfirst into the comparison trap.

Now the popular blogger, speaker and author asks the timely and thought-provoking question: “Is it possible to have peace in the midst of relentless pressures to compare?” And her answer comes in candid and often humorous accounts from her life as a mother of five.

Kay witnesses firsthand how comparison, whether in a business meeting or the carpool lane, can steal joy and replace it with a spirit of competition and discontent.

With wit and sincerity, Wyma – alongside fellow sojourners honestly sharing their own stories in a fishbowl world – reminds us that contentment can come when we do things like:
•Accept, embrace, and do our best rather than fighting to be the best.
•Choose to see the beauty in every human being . . . including ourselves.
•Shift our focus from what could be to what is – opening a door to extraordinary joy in our ordinary days.

Ultimately the contentment key is learning to celebrate someone else’s success. That’s as simple—or as difficult—as saying, “I’m happy for you,” Wyma says, and really meaning it.

I’m Happy for You (Sort Of…Not Really) is a breath of fresh air for every person who feels stifled by the fog of life’s constant worries that they just aren’t measuring up. Readers love Wyma’s laugh-out-loud, straightforward writing style as she shows that contentment comes when we “peel our thoughts away from self-absorption to see those with whom we share life. And not simply see them but fully embrace our life with instead of against each other.”

My thoughts:

This book is easy to read and full of great quotes and stories with applications to my life. I don’t struggle very badly with comparing myself to others but it crops up once in awhile. I appreciated the reminders to make sure I’m not judging a person’s life on little glimpses. I can see a glimpse of another mom’s life and think of all the ways I don’t measure up but do I see her when she’s frustrated or doesn’t have it all together? Probably not.

I am perhaps an odd duck in that I don’t see cool things people are doing and think I should be doing those things. I understand that each family has different passions, talents, gifts, and priorities. But like I said things do crop up once in awhile that make me think, “maybe we’re doing this family thing all wrong”. But at the end of the day, it’s our responsibility to be people who please God not people who measure up to everyone around us.


Kay Wills Wyma, author, blogger and speaker, has five kids, ages 7 to 18, and one SUV with a lot of carpool miles. Before transitioning to stay-at-home mom, she held positions at the White House, The Staubach Company and Bank of America. In 2012, Wyma courageously tackled youth entitlement in her first book, Cleaning House: A Mom’s 12-Month Experiment to Rid Her Home of Youth Entitlement(WaterBrook Press, May 8, 2012). She has been featured on The TODAY Show, CNN-HLN, the Glenn Beck Show, and Focus on the Family, among many others. Kay attended Baylor University and the Thunderbird School of Global Management. She and her husband, Jon, live in Dallas.

Find the author at her blog. The MOAT blog.

Disclosure~ I received a free advance copy of this book in order to provide a review. All opinions are my own.


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