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~ Originally posted at A Dusty Frame at WordPress.com in 2006 ~


Psalm 103:14

For he knoweth our frame; he remembereth that we are dust.

I felt led by God to start this blog over the last few days.

Our home is experiencing the pain and sadness of incarceration.

Yet God is teaching us so much. I know we can’t be the only ones hurting and searching for answers.

I pray that God will allow me to share what we are learning and things that are happening with us.

Over the next few weeks, I’m going to work on adding things I’ve written. So bear with me–this is a work in progress.

Just remember He knows your frame is dust.

**Posted 10/25/06

I want to thank those of you that have read and commented here.

Saying that you are praying for us is truly a blessing. Even if it’s a quick prayer when you read a post, it means more to me than I can say.

When I was in college, I wanted to somehow be involved in women’s ministry. I didn’t know if I would speak, or write but I also knew I had nothing to say.

Why would anyone want to listen to me?

Well, God has dropped in my lap a reason to speak and a reason to share and yes even a reason for people to listen to me.

As I share here, I am sometimes zig zagging around telling things from my struggles in the past. So if you read chronologically it may not make much sense. That’s why I try to put things in categories.

As you read, I pray that you will see Christ in me. When I began to let go and give things to God to work as he pleased, I realized that I must point to Christ and give any glory or accolades to him.

I aim to be transparent. That means some posts will be ugly. In the past I’ve read books about people’s trials and often find them sanitized. I walk away thinking “what is the matter with me that I’m not handling this trial like they did”

I feel that sharing struggles and admitting that I have been angry at God or that I have questioned my faith paints a clearer picture of the true work that God is doing here.

I thank you very much for reading and sharing and praying. I am humbled by your beautiful comments and I am blessed that I can minister in any way. That is truly the cry of my heart.

I also don’t want you to be upset if I don’t post at your blogs very often. The truth is that I have another blog. A blog that is all cheerful and more about bits and pieces of our days. It is for people that don’t about this trial I’m facing. Somehow I haven’t been able to put the 2 together right now. So who knows? Maybe I’ve commented on your blog with my real name. I try to be careful and not mix the two for many reasons.

One reason is that it doesn’t matter “who” I am to share this with you. Who God is is a more necessary thing and I want my growth and trials to share with you that truth.

If you’d like a name to pray for you can call me Lizzie and my son James. Those aren’t really our names but they will work.

If you know anyone that faces a trial like mine, please share my blog with them. This blog is partly due to my wishes that I could find someone “like me” that could understand. I started it because there wasn’t any place I could find and I know that I am not the only one dealing with this.

Thank you again. God bless you!

Comments from the old site:

9/3/2006 at 2:31 a.m. by A Dusty Frame ~ I have come to realize that I am writing this more for me than for anyone else.  I pray I can be a blessing or help or encouragment by sharing how God is moving in our lives.

But over these days of adding to this blog, I’ve realized it is good for me to read and read again the blessings, or the faith on which my soul is anchored. It is an excellent reminder and a balm for a tired soul to be reminded again and again of the things I’m learning.

9/11/2006 at 12:19 a.m. by Chel ~ Hi. I’m hosting this week’s Carnival of Beauty on the topic of Beginnings and Endings & I thought it might be a good topic for you, so I wanted to encourage you to participate. I visit your blog every few days to check in and see how you’re doing, and I try to always say a prayer for you and your family when I do.

10/26/2006 at 12:38 a.m. by Katie ~ I found your website through the Carnival of Homeschooling. I’m praying for you, your son, and your husband. As tired as you all must be, to read about how you find God’s will and His work in your life, has been a blessing to me.

11/08/2006 at 10:43 p.m. by Malgomaj ~ This blog that you’re creating with the help of God is truly beautiful!

While I read some of your posts my brain started to play the memories of a CD from 1982. Billy Batstone: A Little Broken Bread. I’ve failed to find a link for it on the internet, but this is the lyic: “I will be with you in joy and in pain, Your cry for mercy echoes my name, Now and forever I’ll be at hand, I will be with you, I will be with you, for that who I AM. I will be with you. I’ll be on your side, your prayer for deliverance will not be denied, I’ll fight the battle that evil might wage, And I will be with you, I will be with you ’til the end of the age.”

And also an other song on the same CD saying: “In a coming day, We’ll walk side by side, Tears will be erased, There will come a time…”

I pray that this day will come soon for you and your precious family.


11/09/2006 at 3:32 p.m. by Dana Wilson ~ Lizzie, I’ve commented on a couple of your blog entries. My dh has never been incarcerated. Reading through your blog I know we serve the same great God. Things that he is/has taught you he has taught me too.
I have struggled with deep pain and betrayal in my marriage. That is where your blog touches me.
God bless you! I will pray for you as the Lord brings you to mind. If you ever want to read my testimony email me at the above email and I will send it too you.

11/13/2006 at 4:11 p.m. by Christine MM ~ Hello, I found your blog through the Carnival of Homeschooling (which I particpate in also). I admire your choice to share your true thoughts in an unsantized manner, such as you saying some posts will show anger. (I am the same way with my blog, I show everything, and sometimes am criticized for it, last week someone said they didn’t like my tone, oh well!)

I feel sad that you don’t feel that it is safe to meld your other ‘nice’ blog with this one. You are you and you owe it to yourself to show your authentic self to others. I don’t read sanitized and purely sweet blogs as I suspect some are false, showing the outer mask that the blog writer thinks the world wants to see. It does me no good to read a false presentation. The cynical side of me is suspicious of all the family type blogs where there are pictures and small snippets of happy life, it all seems so perfect and a lot is left out or hidden that I am sure is not petty.

I am happy to read this blog of yours and although I don’t know your other sweet blog I wouldn’t be reading it anyway. Perhaps someday if you can meld the two together, and to reveal to your other readers your true situation then their eyes may be opened.

Incarcertation is a stigma in our society and I know people dealing with this right now, middle class and upper class families in which the situation was a total shock to the immediate family and the extended family as well. It is awkward for everyone to deal with. Some try to hide it. Others ignore it and pretend it is not happening, even when speaking to the closest relatives, it is not discussed.

My heart goes out to you and your family. I will pray for your family. God Bless You.

11/13/2006 at 7:28 p.m. by A Dusty Frame ~ Christine, I wanted to clarify why I don’t have the 2 blogs together.

I don’t think the “other” blog is untrue or sickening sweet. I rant on there on occasion!

I’m not sure how much you read but I only recently told my parents. They live very far away. I have several family members and long distance friends that don’t know about this. That is a decision we have made to not tell everyone. However those friends and family read my blog.
I also own a business in my community and not noising this incarceration abroad is partially due to that.

My husband also asked me not to reveal our identity on this blog because he is not here to protect us and doesn’t want our location and the fact that he’s not home to be common knowledge.

I have a lot of truly wonderful Christian people that have done so much for us.
Those who are in my church and my close circle of friends know all about this.
I hope that clears up a little for you about why I don’t put both together.

11/20/2006 at 9:39 p.m. by Sarah ~ First of all, “May the God of all peace be with you” and your precious son and your dear husband.

Can I tell you what a blessing reading your blog has been to me this evening??? Found you through the Carnival of Homeschooling, and have been SO blessed to hear your heart through your posts — and I’ve prayed as I’ve read each one. The “No Man Lives Here” made me teary, struck me deeply. Thank you for your honesty.

In reading this About section (and the succeeding comments), I want you to know that I think you are VERY wise to keep your blogs separate. Having a place to safely lay down your thoughts is extremely important. My own husband travels extensively in his ministry; we prayed and felt it best that personal identifying details be left as our own and my thoughts be free to flow on the page instead. Though I’d not dare to say “I understand,” I will simply say, on this one tiny facet, I relate. I pray that the LORD will use this place as a source of encouragement to you — may you be able to lay your thoughts down here and we, as your sisters (and brothers, too) in Christ encourage you with our words and our prayers.

Just as Esther was not free to tell the king she was a Jew, just as Paul requested his trial in Rome rather than a local authority, you have felt God’s freedom to create a little space for things He is working in and through your family through this blog, but not freedom to make completely public your family’s information. You are obviously a great mother, an amazing wife, and truly, you ARE serving in women’s ministry! Thank you for doing so here. If we never meet in real life, if you and I — and anyone else around here — never even know each other’s whole names or states of residence, it is my joy that we will meet each other in the Kingdom that has no end. It is with a joyful smile that I lift you in prayer — He who has begun this great work in you all and through your lives will be faithful to complete it. We will lift the burdens when you share them and celebrate the joys as you report those, too. Thank you for blessing the rest of us wtih the opportunity to pray for your family and watch the LORD’s hand move in a mighty way!

12/16/2006 at 10:09 a.m. by Janean ~  HI! Found you from Rocks in my Dryer.
Immediately clicked on the link over. My soon to be ex is in for 17 years. After much deliberation and prayer I chose not to remain married to him because his crime was against one of our children. But I can definitely empathize!
Can’t wait to read more!
God bless and come visit my page if you have time.

01/05/2007 at 1:33 p.m. by Barbie ~  I just found your blog through Ame and omgosh I am sitting here with tears just streaming down my face. I loved the list you made for helping single Moms also. I have recently left my dh after 17 yrs and this is the hardest job I have ever had and I have only been single for 5 months! Thank you for sharing.

01/25/2007 at 8:30 a.m. by quiet peace ~ I just wanted to thank you for sharing yourself so honestly. I believe that the Lord led me to find your blog, which I found through a link. It is a comfort to know that our God understands what we go through, the pain and the joy. It is also a blessing to find others who understand us. Sister you are not alone in what you are going through and I can relate as my husband is incarcerated and I have four children. Your blog has been an encouragement to me and I believe it will bless others who have an incarcerated spouse or who are going through being a single parent. I thank God for your courage and may the Lord bless you and your family.

02/03/2007 t 7:56 p.m. by Liza ~  I just discovered your blog. I said a prayer for you..and your son…and your husband. I will be back to read some more….

03/29/2007 at 9:23 a.m. by Tina ~

I know you don’t know me, I have just come to know of you through your blog fairly recently and God has laid you and your family upon my heart several times since to pray. As I was praying for you today two articles that I came across over a year ago came to my mind. I searched them back out and would like to send you the links, if you wouldn’t mind e-mailing me your e-mail address.

All God’s best!

04/03/2007 at 2:44 p.m. by Kimberly ~  I’m at a loss for words. Your blog, your pain, honesty and sincerity are such an inspiration. Thank you for sharing so openly what you are experiencing. You can’t imagine how you are helping others to cope, heal and find encouragement by reading your words, His Words flowing through you and knowing they are not alone. He is there, He loves them and He will bless them just as He is blessing you. You give hope and joy to the readers and an introspection from the inside out. I will be back and I hope to read the entire story and watch as you grow from a larve to a pupil to a butterfly. I wish His greatest blessings upon you, your son, your husband and your supportive friends and church. Thanks again and I’ll be back.

07/25/2007 at 9:39 p.m. by Mrs. L ~ Hi,
It’s Mrs. L from the giveaway/linked to Shannon’s. Thanks for sharing your heart on your blog. I would love to be in touch more if you could email me.

God bless, Mrs. L