Things Left Unsaid

by adustyframe ~ December 9th, 2016

This past year has been a little different for me.

We’ve experienced two incidents that were shocking to say the least. They aren’t things easily explained so I won’t even try.

They aren’t things between family members thank the Lord. But they took a lot of energy and caused confusion and pain and to be honest a lot of head scratching.

Everything is ok now–no need to worry about us.

The end result is that I’ve been left feeling shaken and not sure that my “voice” has any merit. I’ve thought of so many things to say or to share and have second guessed myself (because of these incidents) multiple times.

I end up not saying anything and this little blog putters along with far fewer posts than it used to have.

It’s NOT that God isn’t still teaching and leading and changing us. It’s not that I don’t have stories or blessings or hardships to share.

It’s just that these things that happened made me feel that I shouldn’t share. That I didn’t have a platform (no matter how small) or that maybe I was completely wrong about everything I knew to be true.

I am coming to the point where I can see that is not true. God HAS allowed us to have a small way to share our story with others in order to encourage and teach. God HAS given me this little spot on the internet that has been here for quite some time.

God HAS given me a reason to share and I’m going to regardless of what has been said or done to us in past months. My initial response was to just be quiet and try to sort out my confusion.

But I finally feel that God hasn’t given me peace about being quiet. So, misunderstood I may be. Disliked perhaps? Ignored…ok that’s fine!

But for those of you who have followed along and prayed and encouraged and sent emails how God used something I shared with you to change your heart, well, I’m going to keep blogging.

I’m going to keep encouraging and sharing with people I know in real life.

I’m going to be the me that God has made me to be and our family is going to be the family God has made us. Our marriage is going to be the marriage God has blessed us with.

I know this is so much left unsaid, but I’m mostly checking in. Sharing what I can and asking you to pray for me for God to help me sort out what it is He desires for me to share. Then if I’m obeying Him, the chips can just fall where they may right?


Baby Questions

by adustyframe ~ November 30th, 2016

Tonight, we were on the way home from Bible club. Nathan ADORES church and Sunday School, and AWANA.

He is in the little kid’s group called Cubbies. His workbook included a CD which we listen to in the car sometimes…..when big brother isn’t around to roll his eyes!

The story we heard on our way home was about Paul and Silas. Little guy listened then asked, “Mom! What’s jail?”

I am not sure I was prepared to hear that question come from my little one. It almost took my breath away. It’s amazing the thoughts that rolled through my mind.

James was really only a few months older than this guy is now when dad went “away”. It was a reminder to me of HOW LITTLE James was. He was so young….barely out of babyhood.

I answered that jail was a place where people go who make bad choices.

This little guy of ours isn’t content with simple answers and so the questions and discussion went on and on.

My stomach felt a little sick actually because discussing jail isn’t in my top 10 list of fun things to do on a Wednesday evening…..or any evening!

I thought how very blessed he is to not know about jail. How precious that jail doesn’t touch his life.

But it does touch his life doesn’t it? Because it touched ours.

All of the people in his family were touched by our experience with jail. We are different people because of it.

He’s not 6 or 7 or 8 years older than he is because of jail. He’s the perfect person and God gave him to us at the perfect time. I do know that. I’m just stating that we probably would have had other children and probably not a 3 year old at this stage of our lives.

Jail is that big ugly something in our lives.

The thing that still hurts to think about.

The thing that is still not shared freely with everyone.

The thing that hangs over our memories.

The thing that I scan James’ face for when I look at photos of him from that time period.

Jail is the baggage that all of the people in this house carry. All except for that feisty little one.

For our little guy, jail is just something he hears in a Bible story.

It’s not something that makes Father’s day unbearable to experience.

It’s not something that causes the kids at his table in Sunday School to laugh at him.

It’s not something that adults whisper about around him.

It’s not somewhere he goes to put his hand on a window to “touch” his Daddy.

And we are so thankful.


Thanksgiving Plans?

by adustyframe ~ November 22nd, 2016



What are your Thanksgiving plans?

We will be spending time with family and staying in a hotel for 2 nights–sort of like a mini vacation. We’re looking forward to catching up with everyone including some of our far away family who just got in last night.

Lee is almost home–he should be home by bedtime tonight.

I love the feeling of almost all of us being gathered in together.

We’re eating the usual turkey and fixings but I will take along some of my no carbs, no sugar, no dairy stuff. Although, I think that for the day, I will allow myself some dairy but no sugar or high carbs–pray for me!

What will you be doing?

Do you have a favorite Thanksgiving verse or song? Share it with me!YouTube Preview Image


Tellin’ The Truth Tuesday

by adustyframe ~ November 15th, 2016

Tellin the truth Tuesday



It’s been awhile since I posted one of these! I’ve been working on my health since little guy was born.

In many ways, it was working on my pain level. I had so many things going on after his birth-from C-section healing gone wrong, to horrible hip pain, and flare ups of my chronic problems. Then the hernia…….it’s been a long few years!

This spring, I did start feeling better and more like myself. I started eating low carb. THM did not work for me and I think I’ve figured out many reasons why.

I was feeling great on low carb but weight wasn’t budging.

Recently, I started a lower carb plan with some restrictions and specific supplements and I feel like a million bucks!

I’m so thankful that I seem to have found something that is helping with the weight loss and feeling better.

I haven’t weighed but my clothes are definitely fitting better. So, I’m hoping for some progress soon!

What about you? Any health goals?


What Are You Up To?

by adustyframe ~ November 13th, 2016

Most days, my husband asks what I’m doing that day.
Almost every day, I say, “dishes, laundry, clutter, eBay, running the boy somewhere.”

I was telling a friend this today and we laughed. We don’t do big exciting things most of the time. It’s just the dailies. But those dailies are so important.

We can change the world by being faithful in our homes and sharing the love of Jesus with our families and neighbors.

So, next time, maybe I will tell him, “I’m changing the world today!”


What Are You Reading For Learning?

by adustyframe ~ November 10th, 2016

I am curious!

I am reading a book about the Depression by Studs Terkel. I’m just reading a little at a time but it’s very interesting. I found it super cheap at the thrift store.

I am considering reading this one next.


What about you?


Praying For Our Nation

by adustyframe ~ November 7th, 2016




Join me?


Our Funny Boys

by adustyframe ~ October 31st, 2016

Little guy keeps us laughing constantly. (Well………unless he’s being a strong willed 3 year old but that’s another story……)


This morning, I was eavesdropping on Nathan and James in the kitchen. James asked, “Do you want a bagel?”

The bagels are maple cinnamon by the way.

Nathan replied, “Yes with ketchup.”

James said, “No. You can’t have one that’s disgusting.”

Nathan said, “And with salad!”

Guess who’s sitting here with a plate of spinach, ketchup, and a maple bagle? Yep silly little guy…and he’s eating it!


40 Days to a Joyful Motherhood: Devotions and Coloring Book to Nourish Mom~By Sarah Humphrey~Book Review

by adustyframe ~ October 28th, 2016



What a fun book to review! It combines nourishment for Mom’s soul along with coloring pages.

Each day has a short devotional and an inspirational coloring page.

About the book:

Nourishment for a mother’s soul through 40 days of devotion and . . . doodling!

Wouldn’t it be marvelous if mothering came with a concrete set of instructions—an easy recipe we could follow? Instead, motherhood challenges women to find their faith, their true selves, and their family through daily doses of trial and error. It is a brilliant and healing time of life that is full of joy, pain, and beauty with a small side of crisis (and humor). What mothers do not know, they learn. And through this lifelong process of learning, they nurture and care for the most precious gifts on earth: children. In a modern society where moms often have a full and busy plate, these 10 minute daily devotions focus on six key topics of motherhood:

—Reconciling with grief, hope and expectations

In addition to the devotions, these beautiful pages are adorned with handmade illustrations to help you refresh from long days or even occasional sleepless nights. So, grab your colors and a little quiet time for yourself while doodling at the kitchen table. You will be grateful you did!


About the Author:


Often considered a dreamer and silly heart, Sarah Humphrey uses inspiration from her most beloved career, motherhood, to fuel her passion for writing, creative movement and teaching. She has and is authoring several books and children’s books. Sarah currently resides in Nashville, Tennessee with her husband and three beautiful, bouncy kids.




My thoughts:

What a fun concept. The coloring or doodle pages are fun and charming. I like the idea of coloring while meditating on the thoughts and verses shared in the devotional for that day.

To see what other reviewers thought see this page on Litfuse.


Disclaimer~ I received a free copy of this book in order to provide a review. All opinions are my own.



I Hate Sin

by adustyframe ~ October 24th, 2016

I’m against sin. I’ll kick it as long as I’ve got a foot, and I’ll fight it as long as I’ve got a fist. I’ll butt it as long as I’ve got a head. I’ll bite it as long as I’ve got a tooth. And when I’m old and fistless and footless and toothless, I’ll gum it till I go home to Glory and it goes home to perdition!” ~ Billy Sunday

When I was a kid, we sang a song in Sunday School, “I hate sin. I hate it bad. I hate sin it makes me mad……” (Hey! I found it online here in case you were dying to listen to it.)

It was a fun little song to drive home the point about how bad sin is.

I do hate sin.

I hate that so many of the stories in the news and this election cycle revolve around sin.

I hate that I have friends dealing with ugly situations because of sin.

I hate that people suffer because of the sin of others (or themselves).

I was thinking of a specific situation yesterday, and thought, “Oh! I hate sin.” My heart was sad. I wasn’t angry or judgmental….just so sad.

The first thing that came to my mind was, “But do you hate your own sin as much as you hate sin in others?”

Do I?

Do you?

I would say that I do….of course. But it’s easy to overlook and let things slide or to say that I don’t even care about something.

My prayer today is that I will hate my own sin just as much as I hate sin in others.